Post # 1
Fiance and I have had a LOT of trouble scheduling the wedding, and finally found a date that works – Sunday before Labor Day (Sept 5<sup>th</sup>). We have about 15 guests (out of 70) driving in (~3 hour drive) – FI’s mom and some of his relatives and friends.
We wanted an evening wedding starting at around 5PM because:
-Venue comes with amazing full meal that we wanted to serve around dinner time when people are hungry
-Have premium open bar and great DJ – really want people to dance, drink, have fun and not worry about getting home that night or leaving super-early
-Having more time in the morning/afternoon to get ready, take photos, and spend time with bridal party
We thought having Labor Day off the next day would make it easy for guests to come up Sun afternoon and leave Monday morning. However, FI’s mom says that Labor Day traffic will be horrible and it’s unfair to expect guests to drive home that day. She wants the wedding to start at 3PM and end by 8:30 so people can drive home that night. I’m afraid that no one will eat a full meal at 3:30-5PM and that everyone will start leaving several hours early so they can get home. This would really upset us. However, FI’s mom says that people wouldn’t come if we had the evening wedding, which we also want to avoid, given that it’s a substantial part of the guest list and we would really like them there.
What would you guys do?
Post # 3
I’m going to a wedding that is on the same date…I’m not worried about the holiday trafffic…most people would have to deal with it one way or another. Plus I think most people coming from out of town will be planning on spending the night
I really wouldn’t make the wedding any earlier…and stick to it starting at 5…if some people really want to leave that night, they can.
Post # 4
Seems like maybe FI’s mom is putting her own words in other people’s mouths.
Since most of the Out of Town guests are relatives or friends of Fiance, can he call and see if it’s really going to be that big of a problem for them? If it’s just FI’s mom who doesn’t want to deal with traffic, maybe offer to put her up the night of the wedding so that she can drive back the next morning?
Post # 5
i’m getting married days before you- on Friday, Sept. 03! 🙂 I think that since everyone has off the next day anyhow, people will be willing to stay late and party with you. Stick with your gut at 5pm! If it was a normal Sunday, I’d agree with your Future Mother-In-Law, but for a long weekend like Labor Day, a late Sunday wedding would be great!
Post # 6
Sunday before Labor Day is my dream wedding day! Prices are lower on Sunday’s, people already have off work the next day. No one has to take an additional day off for a Friday rehearsal…. you get the point… you should keep the day and the time!
It’s your and your FI’s wedding, and if you two envisioned a nice evening wedding and dinner reception, then that’s what you should have. Not to mention, if people are more worried about traffic than your wedding, then you probably wouldn’t want them at your wedding anyways.
Post # 7
I’d keep it as an evening wedding if you & your Fiance really want it. We’re getting married 9/5 too and we’re having an evening wedding. Would everyone drive the 3hours home? I would guess that most of them would stay overnight in a hotel.
We thought about holiday traffic too, but there shouldn’t be much traffic that Sunday and yes, there would be traffic the Monday when everyone is heading home from their holiday weekends, but you’d have that regardless of where you went for your Labor Day weekend plans.
Post # 8
stick to your guns! we’re going to a wedding that day and i don’t have any problems with it 🙂 we’re driving about 2 hours too, and we’ll stay the night!
Post # 9
We’re date twins!! I specifically chose this date so that people could travel without having to take a day off of work. Fiance and I live in Texas but will be getting married in Wisconsin where my famiy lives, so we’ll have lots of Out of Town guests.
I agree with teaandtoast, it seems like your Mother-In-Law is putting words in other people’s mouths. People generally plan on spending the night when attending a wedding out of town, would your Mother-In-Law think that people would leave several hours early if you had the wedding on a Saturday evening? Also, IMO 3 hours is not a very far drive and if people leave around lunch time there is still plenty of time to drive home on Monday and still have some relaxing time at home before bed and the start of a new work week. Perhaps you can speak to a few relatives and get their opinions, I would imagine most would be fine with it. Then have them speak with your Mother-In-Law so that she isn’t so worried about the situation.
Post # 10
I’ve gone to several holiday weekend weddings and have never had any extra stress because of it – it’s actually easier since I don’t have to take time off work, and the travel stress has been about the same. (And I say this having only ever NOT traveled for a wedding ONCE – we’re talking a lot of time traveling to weddings…I’d vote for the holiday weekend every time….)
Plus, you are going to hae insane traffice going up/down 95 no matter what day you travel – let them book a hotel room and leave at 11:00 a.m. on Monday!