Labor Day wedding. When to send invites to cross country family?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When to send Labor Day wedding invitations to cross country family?
    5 months in advance : (15 votes)
    54 %
    4 months in advance : (5 votes)
    18 %
    3 months in advance : (8 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If you are not sending save the dates, I think you need to send them out at least 4 months in advance so people can take time off work, make arrangements for childcare, save up travel money if necessary, and look for the most affordable plane tickets.

    Post # 4
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @MzBeer:  let your fam and friends know about your wedding plans via email, call or text. Send invites out end of  June or two months before your wedding.

    Post # 5
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think this is a good reason to use save the dates: it is a date that’s likely to be booked otherwise. They should go out 6 months prior with invites going at 3 months. 

    Post # 6
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I still say ten weeks at the max. I would really consider electronic save the dates at the very least.

    Post # 7
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MzBeer:  Now.  Plane tickets and hotels tend to book up quickly during holiday weekends, especially if your wedding is in a major holiday city (I live in Orlando so Memorial Day weekend is crazy here!) so I would send them their invitations now.

    Post # 8
    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Our wedding is also Labor Day weekend.  We’re sending invites out at the beginning of June, but we sent out Save the Dates a year in advance.  For a holiday weekend, I would HIGHLY recommend sending save the dates……

    Post # 9
    7019 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Invitations, per se, aren’t so much the issue. The issue is when you notify them of the wedding date and city, so they can plan travel. One way or another, you should tell them as soon as possible.

    If you’re not doing Save The Dates, I would either (a) just send the invitations now (or very soon), or (b) phone them and make sure they know the date. There’s nothing wrong with an early invitation. I got one 9-10 months before an interstate wedding last year.

    Post # 10
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Send an email to the OOT guests letting them know dates and hotel block then send invites 2-3 months out.

    Post # 11
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @CurlyCue: +1. You don’t need to pay for “save the date” cards in order to let people know about the wedding. The invitations should still go out just two months before the wedding.

    Post # 12
    4163 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I would email a save the date with lodging info, etc., now.

    Post # 13
    1881 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    You can do StDs for under $100, in your case I would really do them. 

    Post # 14
    8847 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I would do emailed save-the-dates NOW.  Paperless Post has some great free ones.  

    5 months is way too early for actual invites, and 5 months is probably the very LEAST amount of time you want to give your guests as a heads up!  I mean, I already have Labor Day plans….  I’d appreciate hearing about your wedding ASAP if you were my family.

    Post # 15
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I agree, I would do a save the date NOW. You can make them yourself out of cardstock if money is an option, it shouldn’t cost you a whole heck of alot.

    Post # 16
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I highly recommend reconsidering save the dates.  This situation is what STD’s were made for.  Guests are likely already making travel and time-off plans for the rest of the year and will need to know when to block off time for your wedding.  You can communicate this informally if you are close with your extended family, but an STD is a guarantee they will know when the wedding is.  There are some great, inexpensive options out there for STD’s.  We ordered postcards from Zazzle for $25 for 50, and paid another $15 for postcard stamps.  Because we didn’t need envelopes, we saved a ton of money on paper and postage.

    If you’re still against STD’s, send the invites out a little earlier than normal, like in May.

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