(Closed) Memorial day weddings?? Wedding Date Choice– Please help!!

posted 5 years ago in May 2015
  • poll: Which wedding date is better (more convenient for people?)
    May 23 2015 (Memorial Day weekend) : (13 votes)
    46 %
    May 30 2015 (weekend after memorial Day) : (15 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I went to a Labor Day weekend wedding once (in the US, it’s in early September).  It was totally fine but the bride emphasized that we needed to book our rooms and flights early, as the location was a popular destination spot on that holiday (California wine country).  We ended up staying at a B & B across the street from where the wedding was held.  Also, by staying close to the wedding location, we avoided the bulk of the holiday traffic.

    FI and I (he was BF then) had a great time and a great weekend.  Spent the day after the wedding playing tourist a little before flying home.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you want what’s best for your guests, I would do the weekend after Memorial day. Most people have something they do every year for Memorial day. A lot of people use it as a time to get together with out of town family. Honestly, though, the people who are really close to you will change their plans to go to your wedding. But if you have it on Memorial day, just don’t be surprised if a lot of people who aren’t very close to you decline to attend your wedding.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m a Memorial Day weekend bride! I think you’re setting the date far enough in advance that people would change plans. We have a lot of guests who are coming for the long weekend instead of doing the yearly picnic (example) and are going to spend the Monday with family and friends. However, we are doing a 7 month engagement so some people had already booked plans and are unable to cancel them. I don’t think it’d be an issue for you

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Personally I think you’re overthinking this. I’m a labor day weekend bride and had a lot of the same concerns as you (will people travel, will they already have plans, blah blah blah) but really it’s like that book He’s Just Not That Into You: if they want to be at your wedding they will be.

     

    Take a deeeeeeeeep (seriously, so deep) breath and ask yourself “is this worth the stress?”

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Our wedding was on Memorial Day and we didn’t have an particularly high number of people who couldn’t come. And of the people that didn’t come I can’t think of anyone whose reason was some kind of long standing Memorial Day plans.

    I don’t know a single person who has something they do every Memorial Day. I do know that having an extra day off work made it easier for a lot of people come into town for our wedding.

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I love long weekend weddings! Yes, the hotels and flights may be a tad more expensive and guests have to book a little earlier but that’s on them to be responsible adults and book early. And honestly Memorial Day is not such a ‘huge’ holiday like 4th of July or Thanksgiving. Some guests may even appreciate the extra day to travel back/relax. Plus I like the date signiifcance of the 23rd you mentioned too, but then again I’m very sentimental about dates too. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We married on Memorial Day weekend last year and had no issues because of it.  Ok, a couple issues with vendors not wanting to work, but easily found others who would take our money.  And most of that was because it was Sunday, not the holiday. 

    All of our family and all but one of our friends were able to attend, but it was a very small wedding.  Most made the weekend their vacation and just hung out with family or found other stuff to do in town (we gave them some ideas).  A couple friends were pretty excited about a good excuse to get out of town for a mini-vacation on a holiday weekend.  Doing it on Sunday no one had to take time off to travel if they had a “normal” schedule with Sat-Mon off. 

    As an aside – that one friend is now getting married… on a Carnival cruise over Thanksgiving…. yeah, not so much.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @PromiseRooster:  Personally I’d go for memorial day weekend! That may be our date as well, we are choosing either May 2 or May 23. We are from Australia so we don’t have memorial day weekend, but I think it is nice to have a wedding on a long weekend because people can recover from the big day/night. If you give them plenty of notice then you won’t need to worry about people having plans. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    Ok so I voted for the 30th before reading all the sentimental reasons for the 23rd. But truly I agree witch most of the PPs. The people that love and care about you are going to come no matter when you choose, whether they get to spend the long weekend with you (which would be SOO much fun) or they take Friday off after the Monday holiday ( do I hear three day work week?? woohhoooo). 

     

    You and your FI need to decide what is best for you both, and the rest will fall into place. 

     

     

     

    All that said, the 30th is my wedding date as well!! And I chose for the same logistical reasons you mentioned. Plus, did I already say three day work week?!?! Lol. 

     

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