Post # 1
I really need your help. I’m going to be getting married in May 2015 in PA! I’m so excited. I was trying to choose between two dates: May 23 and May 30.
AKA Memorial Day weekend or the weekend after
I emailed my parents and fiance and my dad and fiance thought the 30th was better, and my mom was just like “okay!” so I booked the venue and was really excited. Now my mom thinks the 23rd is better (I wish she had said so before!) and I can still change it with the venue, although it’d be a little embarrassing 😉
I have reasons I like both days, but what I care most about is what would be best for my guests. A lot of people will have to travel to attend (our families live all over the world).
So pros and cons:
-Saturday, memorial day weekend. My dad thinks this is bad because people might have other plans
-It is the anniversary of my first date with my FI 🙂
-The Saturday after memorial Day. My mom thinks it would be hard for people to take Friday off to travel when they already had Monday off that weekend because of memorial Day
-The historical wedding data shows a lower chance of rain
Thank you for your help!
[[EDIT: it’s actually memorial day, not Labor Day, clearly I’m too tired ;0 ))
Post # 3
I went to a Labor Day weekend wedding once (in the US, it’s in early September). It was totally fine but the bride emphasized that we needed to book our rooms and flights early, as the location was a popular destination spot on that holiday (California wine country). We ended up staying at a B & B across the street from where the wedding was held. Also, by staying close to the wedding location, we avoided the bulk of the holiday traffic.
FI and I (he was BF then) had a great time and a great weekend. Spent the day after the wedding playing tourist a little before flying home.
Post # 4
If you want what’s best for your guests, I would do the weekend after Memorial day. Most people have something they do every year for Memorial day. A lot of people use it as a time to get together with out of town family. Honestly, though, the people who are really close to you will change their plans to go to your wedding. But if you have it on Memorial day, just don’t be surprised if a lot of people who aren’t very close to you decline to attend your wedding.
Post # 5
I’m a Memorial Day weekend bride! I think you’re setting the date far enough in advance that people would change plans. We have a lot of guests who are coming for the long weekend instead of doing the yearly picnic (example) and are going to spend the Monday with family and friends. However, we are doing a 7 month engagement so some people had already booked plans and are unable to cancel them. I don’t think it’d be an issue for you
Post # 6
Well, now he prefers the 23rd for sentimental reasons and I prefer the 30th for logistical reasons and we’re both mad at my mom for not telling her opinion BEFORE the decision was made.
I don’t want to have a date I feel like he’s settling for but I was really happy about the 30th! Now I’m honestly feeling kind of emotional about it and I don’t know WHAT to do.
Post # 7
Personally I think you’re overthinking this. I’m a labor day weekend bride and had a lot of the same concerns as you (will people travel, will they already have plans, blah blah blah) but really it’s like that book He’s Just Not That Into You: if they want to be at your wedding they will be.
Take a deeeeeeeeep (seriously, so deep) breath and ask yourself “is this worth the stress?”
Post # 8
Our wedding was on Memorial Day and we didn’t have an particularly high number of people who couldn’t come. And of the people that didn’t come I can’t think of anyone whose reason was some kind of long standing Memorial Day plans.
I don’t know a single person who has something they do every Memorial Day. I do know that having an extra day off work made it easier for a lot of people come into town for our wedding.
Post # 9
I love long weekend weddings! Yes, the hotels and flights may be a tad more expensive and guests have to book a little earlier but that’s on them to be responsible adults and book early. And honestly Memorial Day is not such a ‘huge’ holiday like 4th of July or Thanksgiving. Some guests may even appreciate the extra day to travel back/relax. Plus I like the date signiifcance of the 23rd you mentioned too, but then again I’m very sentimental about dates too. 🙂
Post # 10
We married on Memorial Day weekend last year and had no issues because of it. Ok, a couple issues with vendors not wanting to work, but easily found others who would take our money. And most of that was because it was Sunday, not the holiday.
All of our family and all but one of our friends were able to attend, but it was a very small wedding. Most made the weekend their vacation and just hung out with family or found other stuff to do in town (we gave them some ideas). A couple friends were pretty excited about a good excuse to get out of town for a mini-vacation on a holiday weekend. Doing it on Sunday no one had to take time off to travel if they had a “normal” schedule with Sat-Mon off.
As an aside – that one friend is now getting married… on a Carnival cruise over Thanksgiving…. yeah, not so much.
Post # 11
@PromiseRooster: Personally I’d go for memorial day weekend! That may be our date as well, we are choosing either May 2 or May 23. We are from Australia so we don’t have memorial day weekend, but I think it is nice to have a wedding on a long weekend because people can recover from the big day/night. If you give them plenty of notice then you won’t need to worry about people having plans. 🙂
Post # 12
Ok so I voted for the 30th before reading all the sentimental reasons for the 23rd. But truly I agree witch most of the PPs. The people that love and care about you are going to come no matter when you choose, whether they get to spend the long weekend with you (which would be SOO much fun) or they take Friday off after the Monday holiday ( do I hear three day work week?? woohhoooo).
You and your FI need to decide what is best for you both, and the rest will fall into place.
All that said, the 30th is my wedding date as well!! And I chose for the same logistical reasons you mentioned. Plus, did I already say three day work week?!?! Lol.