Post # 1
So, we are considering having our wedding on the Friday Night of Labor day (09.02.11) and I wanted to get your thoughts if this is acceptable or not? Here are the pros and cons:
- Significantly cheaper because it is a Friday Holiday and FI and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves (in NYC)
- Both large rooms are available that Friday (usually on Friday’s the magnificent cocktail hour room isn’t available because it is open to club members)
- My family is traveling from Florida and plan on making a mini-vacation out of the wedding so the built in Monday off would allow them to have an extra day without taking time off of work
- I could spend Sat and Sun with my fam before jetting off to the honeymoon on Monday
- Friday night wedding still allows local people their entire Saturday, Sunday and Monday to go wherever they are going (shore, long island, etc)
- People have weekend plans already
- Hotels and airfare more expensive? (not 100% sure on this yet because most people leave the city for summer weekends)
What do you gals think?
Post # 3
I think it could work. I would just be sure to give people plenty of notice so that they don’t make plans for that weekend.
Post # 4
I don’t know specifically about NYC, but airfare to/from FL (where I used to live) is always more expensive over Labor Day and Memorial Day weekends (I used to fly into Philly and BWI). Also, you will probably have more than the normal amount of tourists coming into NYC that weekend too. That being said, if that is the weekend you really want to do it, then go for it! I would just give your OOT guests as much advance notice as possible so they can try to book their flights early.
Post # 5
We had a Labor Day weekend wedding. But ours was on Sunday – we didn’t have a problem with people not coming because of other plans.
I’d say move it to Saturday though because having a Friday night wedding means people have to rush from work to the wedding or take the day off to fly in. Since most people get Monday off they’d probably be more appreciative of not having to take a day off before a long weekend. We used it to our advantage so people could fly in on Saturday and out on Monday and not have to take any time off.
Post # 6
I would think it would be difficult for the out-of-towners, as most everyone would need to take Friday off. Not sure about airfare, but hotels would likely be jacked up. And even though city residents think of it as a weekend that everyone clears out to the hamptons or jersey shore, the weekend is a huge one for tourists, and the city is packed with mostly non-NYers, so be sure to find a hotel super early.
I certainly wouldn’t mind attending a wedding labor day weekend, but i think a lot of people would be a little annoyed about having to take an extra day before a long weekend, and people are generally a little bit sensitive about giving up their 3 days weekends. I had more than a few people tell me when i was picking a date for the fall “just don’t do labor day weekend!”
Basically, i would talk to some of your guests and see how they feel about it. Good luck!
Post # 7
we had a labor day weekend wedding… on sunday… is that a possibility for you?? i think most of our guests liked it b/c they didn’t have to take any time off of work and had that monday to travel home after the wedding.
Post # 8
i agree with pp’s. it’s nice to have a wedding on a long weekend so people don’t have to take off work, but having the wedding on a friday negates that benefit as people would still have to take off to get there in time. i would try moving the wedding to that sunday, when rates will probably still be lower. and give your guests PLENTY of advanced notice — more than for a normal OOT guest.
Post # 9
I think it depends on how many OOT guests you have…Fridays are difficult for people who have to travel. We had a Friday wedding, but we also had a lot of people who were only coming from the NYC metro/tri state area, so it wasn’t bad. I do love the idea of having the rest of the weekend free after the wedding–that was one of the things I loved about our Friday wedding! I would say that it could probably work out, as long as guests know about it in advance so they can take off Thursday if they need to.
Post # 10
I went to a DW on the Friday of Labor Day weekend in 2009. We made a mini vacation out of it and the flight and hotel costs weren’t that bad. It worked out for us, but I would suggest that you send your STD’s now so people can mark it on their calendars and not make other plans.
Post # 11
Well all of my FI family is local (NJ) so they won’t need to take Friday off, unless they want to, plus most are old and retired lol so they dont work anyway.
My family is really the working family and you guys are right, they would have to take the Thursday AND Friday off but to them, this is their first wedding and they would come early anyway, so I am not worried about my fam plus they would be glad to see me for longer.
Im more concerned about the people who arent as close to us, like local friends and co-workers. On one hand, they would need to leave work early on Friday (most people get out at 1pm) but on the other, I’m not messing up their weekend versus coming back from the Shore on a sunday to attend my wedding and then their Monday is shot.
Sunday wedding is priced the same as a Saturday night on Holidays.
Post # 12
What time would the ceremony be on Friday?
Post # 13
@hilsy85: I need to call churches to find out when they could do it. Before I book the venue, I am going to check with the church and hotels, because if the hotel block is outrageous, there is no point on a Friday wedding.
No one tells you how stressful wedding planning is!!!!!! I wish I had unlimited funds!!!
Post # 14
I got married on Labor Day weekend, but like camrie, ours was on a Sunday. It was cheaper all the way around- because most people flock to beach type areas, (and not major cities) that weekend, we got a lot of things cheaper- from the wedding venue itself, to transportation, to hotel rooms- everything was discounted because not a lot of people get married that weekend. As far as being worried about guests having other plans, we sent out STD’s well in advance so people were aware and didn’t make other plans. Trust me, the people who are going to be there for you, are coming regardless of when you get married.
Post # 15
I would say that whatever makes the most sense for you and your families is what you should do. We are doing a 4th of July weekend wedding and had some of the same concerns but when it comes down to it there is no date that is going to be perfect for everyone, whatever day you pick is going to be convinent for some people but as long as you and your families are happy with the date it will be wonderful. 🙂
Post # 16
We had ours on the sat. of labor day weekend. We didn’t have any problems with guests not being able to come, other than the fact that it was the 1st football game of the season. And yes a few people went to the game instead of the wedding. Most people made it a long weekend trip also. We wanted it on a holiday weekend because we were traveling back home for the wedding and didn’t want to have to rush back the next day (husband is in school- honeymoon isn’t until April).
I understand your concerns with the friday thing though. Would you have the rehearsal thursday night ? Imo, It does ask a lot of people to take both thursday and friday off. I don’t know about your guests’ situations but for us (and our guests) with work and school, it would be hard to take off both thursday and friday to attend a wedding when we already have a scheduled break (monday) off.