Post # 1
Hey Bees – I need your (kind) advice.
My FI and I booked our venue a month ago and at the time, they didn’t have any Saturday dates between june – oct (except oct 31st) so we opted for a Friday wedding because we just can’t wait to get married. We ended up choosing Friday, September 4th which is the friday before labor day. Initially I thought it was a good idea because usually people take time off before labor day anyways (which was also shown this year when our office was practically empty because people were on vacation) but i’m just worried people are going to plan to go elsewhere that weekend so it may not be the best time? I also thought people might be motivated to take that day off anyways to have an excuse for a 4 day weekend.
Our wedding is immediate family only and about 130-150 guests. No OOT guests. The farthest anyone would have to drive is an hour and those are the people FI works with who we don’t really expect to come anyways.
To be clear, I’m asking if this sounds like a good idea or not. I am not asking for you to throw rocks at me or shun me for life
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Post # 2
My main concern would people being able to take off on that Friday. That’s a very popular vacation day for a lot of people.
Post # 3
IIt would depend on what time your wedding is at, wether or not I would attend, and how close we are.
Friday weddings should not start before 7, IMO. Asking guests to take time off (which equals $$) is not cool.
If it’s an evening affair I’d come. Or if we were BFFs. otherwise I’d decline.
I would expect many people to have standing long weekend plans and that you will have a higher # of declines.
Post # 4
We got married on the Friday of Labour Day weekend in 2012. Because we didn’t want to have guests book that day off (unless they chose to), we had a late ceremony. It worked out fine.
Post # 5
It depends on the guests. A lot of my family work at places where there are only so many people allowed to take off on any given day. It could be really hard for them to take off Friday before Labor Day because SO MANY other people put in the request (and sometimes there’s a tradeoff- you want that day off, you have to work Thanksgiving, etc).
When would the wedding start?
Post # 6
I think if you had it late enough in the evening it would be fine.
Post # 7
My good friend/FSIL just had her wedding this past Labor Day weekend, except she had it Saturday, not Friday night. All of her husband’s family was from out of town and she thought having it on a holiday weekend would make it easier.
She found the opposite to be the case. Like other posters have said, several of his family members could not take Friday off because other people were taking it off, so many guests came in town late Friday night after work. Some came in very early Saturday morning and because it was a holiday weekend, flights were more expensive.
Since all your guests are local, you won’t have the flight issues but I think Friday night weddings in general are hard unless you have the ceremony start late, like 7pm.
Also, my friend found out, which she didn’t realize at the time she booked the wedding, that many members of her husband’s family go camping together that one weekend, and that’s the only time many of them could get together. Yes, they should not moan about taking their one weekend to attend a one time wedding, but many of them did. I do think many people make plans that weekend.
Post # 8
I had a memorial day weekend wedding. basically the important people all went to our wedding and a few had graduations and vacations planned (but I didn’t mind). The important out-of-town guests (my husband’s family) requested a holiday weekend and I found it easier to get everyone in town that weekend, but YMMV.
Personally I’d prefer a Sunday wedding to a Friday wedding especially when the next monday is a holiday. That way you can have a rehearsal on Saturday and no one in the wedding party needs to take off a day. And everyone has their “day after” to work off the hangover.
Post # 9
westgirl1208: I hate holiday weddings. It means the holiday that I am looking forward to is ended up spent with you, not the beach. And that makes me sad. However, a Friday of Labor Day weekend in a place where you are not prone to horrible holiday traffic, could work. Especially if it was an evening wedding. That way I could get a half day in, go to your wedding, then go to the beach. That makes me much happier. If it was a 2pm wedding, it would mean I would have to take the whole day off and that is much harder in my line of work.
Post # 10
I personally cannot take off any days on any of the 3 summer holidays, but I work in vacation rentals.
I know my family usually prefers not to have weddings around holidays, unless its the lesser holidays [valentines, easter, halloween]
Post # 11
westgirl1208: I agree with PP’s that in some industries that friday is a very popular vacation day so it your guests don’t get their requests in early they may be SOL. I would def. look into a later ceremony if you are doing it on a friday. It’s early enough in the weekend that people could still make plans to celebrate labor day and your wedding both- esp since you said no-one lives over an hour away. I would be ok taking a half day off work that friday, but not a whole day, and I’ve had previous jobs where the friday before a holiday weekend is off limits for vacation time because it’s such a busy time…
Post # 12
I think it’s a very popular summer vacation time (the last hoo-rah of the summer), and you’ll run into some issues with people being able to get the time off, or wanting to take extra time off.
Post # 13
Most of our family members either work an office job or something similar. & I definitely agree with everyone taking that day off. We were thinking of sending out the STD’s around January because most of our family says that’s when their vacation starts over again anyways.
Also we don’t plan on having a huge or long ceremony and we’re thinking of doing our wedding pics of just us and the few BM’s and GM’s on a different day at a different location so that won’t cut into our time or budget. I was thinking of starting at 5 and having dinner at 6.
& thank you all for your input. I really want it to be a family affair and i’ve never actually been to a wedding because most of my immediate family hasn’t gotten married yet or I was too young to even remember the wedding. My FMIL says it’s going to be fine but she’s such a sweetheart, I couldn’t tell if she was serious or just trying to make us feel better for not getting a saturday
Post # 14
I’m getting married 9/5 and am not worried about people missing it bc it’s Labor Day weekend. The people that really want to be there will and thats what matters. Personally I am not a huge fan of Friday weddings as I would have to leave work early or be late to the wedding, but I wouldn’t miss someone’s wedding bc it was on a Friday.
Post # 15
I agree with pumpkinmuffin. I am also having my wedding 09/04/15 friday before labor day and the family I’ve mentioned it to think it’s a great idea and no one has expressed any concerns. We are also going to be sending out save the dates so that should help people plan accordingly. It also gives people the option if they do have holiday plans that a saturday-monday trip would still work for them. And if anyone is going to complain because I’m having my wedding the one labor day weekend out of their whole life and plan a trip instead well then that’s their loss.