Post # 1
Hi, this is my first post, I have been looking for a while but never really had anything to say about me!
I have been with my SO about a year, and we have spoken about getting engaged. He has said he’s going to buy me a ring soon, he asked what I’d like, I sent him some links to styles I liked and left it at that. He’s very traditional that way, and wants to do the rest himself.
Now I know this could be within a few months (from what he said) it got me to thinking about who I would invite. (We would be engaged about a year hopefully.) I have moved about a bit for my job, and for the majority have lived about 3/4 hours away from all the people I went to school and university with, and have gradually lost contact with a lot of them.
I have two best friends, who I have kept in touch with no matter where I was. I plan on making them my bridesmaids. I am pretty sociable and get on with everyone at work, but I don’t think I would invite any of them to my wedding.
To be honest, I’m really not sure who else I would invite. God, I sound like I’m a recluse who can’t speak to people! (That’s not true :P) I also have quite a small family, whereas my SO has a large family dotted all about the country!
My SO also has LOTS of friends who he keeps in touch with, even ones who live about 7 hours away! He also has a lot of friends at work he is close with that he would probably invite. I’m sure they will all come to the wedding and now I’m starting to get anxious it will look strange that I will have hardly anyone on my side.
I’m hoping for a small ceremony, then invite more at night, however as a lot of his friends live 7 hours away we couldn’t really invite them just to the reception.
Sorry this turned into a rant, has anyone else felt like this or is it just me?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
You aren’t alone!! My FI is in exactly the same situation and another Bee wrote about the same thing. The best advice I heard someone give– here on the forum– was that this is going to be your family now! If you look at it that way, you’ll have a LOT of people at the wedding!
But don’t worry, no one will think it’s odd. Just make the most of your day/evening and everyone will be charmed by you.
Also, by that time, who knows? Things can change.
Post # 4
Thanks 🙂 I’m not the only one then! You’re right, I love all of his family and like all of his friends, and I will love them being there. I hadn’t really thought about it that way. (Was too preoccupied about looking like a loser :P)
Post # 5
That is the reverse of our situation. We aren’t having sides in the church. Weddings are about bringIng people together anyways
Post # 6
It’s about the same for us. Of the 350 people invited, only 8 are my friends and FI has about 25 friends invited. We wanted to invite a lot more of our friends but our families are so huge there was just no way.
Post # 7
@mgbser: That’s a great idea, so simple yet that never occurred to me. I suppose I haven’t actually started planning yet, that’s my excuse 🙂
I’m glad I put this post on, I feel better now hearing your stories 🙂
Post # 8
@LoveKurtGeiger: I had my sister, a cousin, 3 bridesmaids, and 2 friends who came to my wedding. Then a few family members, grandmother, aunts, uncles and parents. That’s it. I got really sad about that for awhile during the process – but on the day, it was perfect. I knew those were the people who cared about me the most. And Im so glad there werent “half-assed” friends there.
Post # 9
@LoveKurtGeiger: You also have plenty of time to re-connect with your old friends and make some new ones!
Post # 10
Thanks bees : ) all very hood points, I feel less anxious now.