Post # 1
My shower was on Sunday, and I didn’t get my hostesses (my FMIL and two bridesmaids) hostess gifts because I for all the research I had done on wedding stuff, I never stumbled across the hostess gift threads until today. I feel absolutely horrible. I’m planning on getting my bridesmaids very generous bridesmaid’s gifts for the wedding – a Nook Color ($250) for my MOH, and something similiary generous for my bridesmaid once I can pin down something that she’d like – she’s very hard to buy for. I’m also paying for them to have their make-up done on the wedding day. We’ll be getting gifts for our parents, too.
So, what do you think? Should I come up with a hostess gift to give them after the fact? Is that tacky? Will the bridesmaid’s gifts suffice (Plus thank you cards, obviously, for everything they did at the shower!)? I feel SO guilty for not getting them anything!
Post # 3
What about sending them each flowers and a bottle of wine with a “thank you so much for the shower!” note?
Post # 4
I guess I’m a bad bride then, I didn’t get them anything either. Like you, I got them very nice gifts at the RH (including parents), so I figured that was enough. Plus, I think the hostess gift might be a cultural or regional thing, b/c not only have I not heard of it but I’ve never recieved a gift being a hostess. I think it’s a nice gesture, but not necessary.
Post # 5
@geekily: Maybe you could take them to see the Bridesmaids movie, that would be fun.
Post # 6
I think hostess gifts for bridal showers may be more common in some areas than others. I have never received a gift for showers I have hosted. Cards? yes. Gift? no.
If you do feel like you want to get them something why not a gift card for a mani-pedi sent with the thank-you card?
Post # 7
I have never received a hostess gift, nor have I given them, nor have I heard of anyone else giving/getting one.
So I wouldn’t worry about them too much if you’ve never heard of them before.
Post # 8
I think a gift after the fact (thank them specifically for the shower) will be appreciated. I’ve hosted a shower before (as a BM) and I never got a gift, and it didn’t bum me out – either. A friend of mine gave a box of nice chocolates to her hostesses when they threw her showers, and I thought that was a sweet idea. I gave all my hostesses boxes of really nice soaps (to go with a ‘shower’ theme). If you don’t end up getting them anything, at the very least, send a card saying how much you appreciated the shower!
Post # 9
I think giving kick-ass BM gifts with a nice card expressing your gratitude more than makes up for no hostess gift. And it may be a regional thing, but I automatically got gifts for the people who hosted my bridal shower – they put a lot of work into it and I actually handed out their gifts after I finished opening mine. But I’m sure they wouldn’t be offended to receive something later, or else do the mani/pedi gift certificate that a PP suggested. And on a side note – you are giving really amazing BM gifts! I only spent about $45/BM plus I’m paying for mani/pedis the day before the wedding, but that’s still under $100/person total.
Post # 10
I plan to give my Brides Maids nice BM gifts, plus a thank you card for hosting the shower. But I also plan to give them beauty treatments the day before the wedding – facial, mani/pedis, etc. I think more than the thank you gift, that will suffice.