Post # 1
Is anyone else just down right frustrated with their own lack of funds? I don’t understand how this process could be so dang depressing. My fiancé is paying for the wedding, he told me he would give me $1000 to do the wedding including my dress and accessories, decorations, favors, plates and such, flowers, photographer and whatever other details i’m forgetting. we aren’t paying for the venue, catering, or the cake and his stuff and the rings are not included in the budget. am i being a brat when i think i need more money? what things could i just skip or something? i’m making invitations myself, we are using an iPod instead of having a DJ, i’m doing just plain carnations (and i don’t think i’m going to have very many) i’m trying to find a cheap dress but i’m just gunna say i like the more expensive dresses… anyone else frustrated or have any advice?
Post # 3
do you work and can contribute to the budget??? otherwise what about a JOP wedding with a restaurant brunch/meal afterwards?
Post # 4
The dress I want is 3k, but in order to have a 300 guests wedding, I have to settle for a preowned dress and scale down just about everything…FI and I are paying for everything ourselves.. We are having the wedding farther out so that we can save more money that way! Maybe you can have it few months out so that you can have time to save for it. 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with eloping… 1000k is a tight budget and some people manage to make it work, but it’ll take a lot of work on your part. I’m sorry 🙁 I don’t really have any good advice for you, but I feel your pain.
Post # 6
Yes, you probably do need more money. Can you push the wedding date back so that you can save some more money? Even an extra $1000 would make things a lot easier.
Post # 7
I will not push it out further… he is going into the Marines and i can’t stay behind for that long. If it was just me id be okay but we have a little girl and its going to be hard enough when he is gone for training and such, she is going to miss him so bad. i am just to the point where i don’t really care about a great wedding as long as i get the dress ill be fine and we can work out the other stuff… i know all of my family won’t care they’re all telling me that i should work with what i have and it will be fine but it is just hard because its our wedding and i want it to be nice. i know for a fact i could do a great wedding for $2000 but i don’t really have a job because i stay home to take care of Caidence (our daughter) so its hard to save the money i do get because i’m always spending it on the stuff that she needs.
Post # 8
Ugh. Right before the wedding, I lost my most stable & lucrative income stream. It was devastating with the bills piling up. It put such a damper on things for me.
Now that the wedding is all over, I’m finding out that the whole disaster was a paperwork glitch & things may well be back to normal shortly.
Money stress is the absolute worst. Actually, health stress is even worse, but money worries are terrible.
Post # 9
Oh no! that is bad =( I am happy things are working out! I am starting to hate the idea of money
Post # 10
Its possible…sorta. We had a verrry small budget too but still pulled off a beautiful wedding. You have to make LOTS of cuts. This will probably include:
No photographer (have a friend do some photos) or a personal favorite peice of advice is to call your local community college and get a photography student to do it. They need to for their portfolios and will charge hardly anything. They need the experience more then the money.
BBQ style food. (Which is SO yummy anyways!)
No alchohol. (I had an alcohol free wedding and it wasn’t an awful idea..just a little harder)
Flowers from your local farmers market. (My total flower cost was $55.00! For EVERYTHING!)
Clear plastic plates and clear plastic cups with clear plastic silverwear. (No one notices what they are eating off of just as long as they are eating!)
Remember officiant fees! Those can get kinda pricey. So shop around for a officiant.
Oh gosh I have MUCH more! Ask me any questions on how to have a cheap wedding! I feel like after mine I am the queen of them!
Post # 11
Can you do something to earn more money? Do local focus groups? babysit? for a little more cash?
Post # 12
My friend got married for less than 500.00 dollars with about 60 people present and it was beautiful. Now it wasn’t super fancy and lacked a lot of what I will be doing but it worked! She got her dress from Dillards, it was just a long white silk dress for about 30 bucks on sale, she bought her flowers at a grocery store the day of, she used her families Christmas lights to decorate the “alter” and bought tulle for cheap and used a coat rack to make the background. The reception/ceremony was held in the same place. She used cotton throw away linens and they made all the food with supplies they got from Sams club. There are ways to do things on the cheap! I have some pictures I can send if you PM me! In order to have a budget wedding you do have to make some sacrifices but that doesnt mean things have to be terrible!
Post # 13
Yikes – that’s a really tight budget. It sounds like you’ve exhausted a lot of different options, but there’s only so much you can do. I started out thinking I could do our wedding for “X” dollars and even doing everything as cheaply as possible, I ended up doubling it.
Break out costs for each thing and then figure out what you can get rid of (like favors or flowers). You can get super creative with decor or let the room just speak for itself – when money is tight. Friends might also be able to help out and give you ideas or lend you items they have. Some of my favorite decor ended up being pictures I literally took off the walls in my house and put up in the foyer of the chapel… everyone loved and commented on them.
But – I totally feel your pain. Finances are soooo difficult and cause a lot of stress when planning.
Post # 14
Yeah, that’s definitely tight, but I think you can do it. I’d figure out what your priority is (is it your dress?) and then figure out ways to scale back the other items.
I’d say skip the favors–that’s an easy thing to eliminate.
If you do your flowers yourself, you can cut costs big time.You could buy a bunch of flowers from a nice grocery store the morning of the wedding to use for any bouquets, and you could use greens or potted plants for table centerpieces. Or put apples in baskets on every table–perfect for fall.
Plates–maybe you can use paper plates? Those sturdy, nice ones they sell? Might be cheaper than renting.
You could also skip the photographer. We had one, but honestly, the photos that our friends took are just about as good. If you don’t want to cut out a photographer altogether, I bet you could hire a student or an acquaintance for not too much money. And you could save even more money by having the photographer there for only an hour or two–think about when you really want to have great photos (the ceremony and right after?) and focus on that period. Then rely on your friends’ photos for the rest of the wedding.
Anyway, if it’s important to you to have a wedding (as opposed to a JOP thing or eloping), you can do it! Good luck!
Post # 15
I clean my mother in laws house for a little extra money. I am trying to save up but with the holidays and everything its not getting anywhere right now. We are having a “potluck” style reception, a few of the closest people are going to bring some food. We are not having alcohol as neither of us are 21. I am making our invitations, we aren’t having decorations for the ceremony other than the petals of course, our pastor isn’t charging anything but we will probably make a donation (outside of the budget, i am not doing centerpieces other than maybe a tea light and petals (fake ones), i think i’m going to get some flowers from Costco so i can make my bouquet and little ones for the bridesmaids maybe. I know a guy who would do pictures for 250 but i don’t think i can afford that either so i think ill ask a girl i knew in high school, that does fairly good pictures, i f she could do them. she would charge little to nothing i imagine… my biggest issue is the dress. i’m not finding any way to cut a whole lot of costs and still be happy, i know what kind of dress i want and I’ve seen myself in them so i would be unhappy with anything else…
Post # 16
I found a wb’er that has your gown!!! pm me!