Lack of Sex Drive and Serious Problems

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Payless:  I think it’s bizarre your future sister-in-law is bugging you about kids a month before your wedding; so I’d start by ignorning that. She may be family, but that is none of her business when you and your FI plan on having children.

I’m trying to figure out what you’re asking: what to do if you have trouble having children or what to do about the lack of sex?

You’ll get different answers, but the way I see it is this: you’re a month away from your wedding, so you need to ask yourself if these struggles you may have are something you can see yourself sticking by him through. You have a right to be happy, and so does he.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say give the hormones a try, there is nothing wrong with trying.  If you don’t like the side effects stop or try a different med.  It is like birth control, sometimes it takes afew attempts to find one that works with your body.

Post # 5
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4220 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t fear adding testosterone if that’s what his body is lacking. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My FI looked into testosterone supplements (also has low T levels) and turns out they can cause sterilization. permanent. So….it’s a double edged sword. Either you never have kids because his drive is so low or you never have kids because he takes supplements and becomes sterile. A lose lose situation. have you tried going to see a sex therapist? That is a good option that doesn’t involve medication! 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have had a few friends that were on it, young guys in their 20’s, they have not had side effects, they are on a low dose and that might be why.  There are risks and benefits to everything.  If you are really worried about kids, you can go the IV way as well.  I had a friend who had such low T that it was even hard for the docs to do IV, but it worked in the end and they have twins now.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Payless:  what about natural supplements? Do some research into Maca Root. I took it for a month… and even my sex drive was unusually super high. 

It’s a natural booster– from the turnip family. Comes in capsules. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Payless:  it’s exhausting, that’s for sure! But I think it’s great you are going to therapy. hopefully that will help you guys really get to the bottom of it. 

Sex isn’t everything, but its important you are both satisfied and happy. I know what a big struggle it can be & I have quite a few friends in this boat too. You’re not alone! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Women take the birth control pill (which is a hormone pill) all the time, and it doesn’t destroy their relationships. He should try taking the testosterone. If you are less happy, he can always stop taking it, but it sounds like you’re already pretty unhappy with the way things are, so I think it’s worth trying.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@tampalove35:  IM going to look into this! Thanks for posting!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Payless:  This might sound a bit strange, but have you considered freezing some of your SO’s sperm?  Then you can have him try the testosterone without being too scared about potential infertility issues.

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