Post # 1
Regular Bee gone annon for this one.
So FH and I have been together for a really long time. We were both in our early 20’s when we started dating and we are now in our early 30’s.
When we first got together, as is typical, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other, we were having sex 3 times a day – it was a little much.
Over the years it’s slowed down A LOT. For a while we were working such crazy shifts we hardly saw each other. Now I feel like it’s every Saturday night (sometimes Friday) we have sex. It’s good, not great. I feel like he’s gotten lazy about it all.
He also asks me for oral ALL THE TIME. I used to like doing it. I’ve been told by him (and some previous BF’s) that I’m gifted and should teach lessons. I appreciate that he enjoys it but there’s not really anything in it for me. I’d ask him to reciprocate but he’s gotten pretty lazy in that department and it’s just not enjoyable for me. I’d much rather have a good romp, but I feel like all he wants is oral.
Post # 3
@misstreebee: maybe 69 it? that’s what FI and I do majority of the time. Not always one on top of the other. but in different ways. My FI LOVESSS oral, and since I can’t have sex everyday (tmi: i get too raw) he’s always suggesting it.
Maybe that way, you’d both be taken care of. I’m not sure if u all may be the same way, but I get off quicker if i know i’m getting him off too.
again, probably TMI lol
Post # 4
Yeah, there’s some definite laziness going on. Is your fiance depressed? Very stressed with work? Have you noticed this laziness extending to other areas of his life (i.e., doesn’t get involved in his hobbies as much anymore)? That could explain some of the problem, along with low testosterone.
Post # 5
I feel like I’m in your exact situation. Although, I’m certain for my FH it’s stress, but at some point i start to wonder sex has to be a good stress reliever right? Anywho, it’s always the same, Saturday or Sunday night, RARELY on a work night. And he always (not asks) more like hints at me giving him oral for foreplay. Much like the sex, it’s always on his terms. Well the best thing that has worked for me, is to not give it up when he wants it. I waited about 4-5 weeks with no sex what so ever. and he finally basically jumped my bones one night, took total control. As for the one way oral road, if he asks for oral before sex or whatever, I will purposly move into 69, so he kinda doesn’t have any other option, then sometimes evenutally I’ll stop, but he doesn’t.
Everytime I bring this up to friends or my sister, I feel like those MTV commercials “It’s your sex life, take control!” Lol
Post # 6
we’re kinda the same too… we were long distance so we had to cram it in No Pun Intended LOL and now that we live together we dont so much. sometimes i mind and most of the time i dont…im so lazy haha