- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
I know this isn’t a huge deal, it might even be a little silly to be upset over, but I really just need a good whine so I can get this out of my system and stop feeling bitter towards my extended family.
So, FH and I announced our engagement to my mom’s side of the family in January 2012 and told everyone we would be getting married January 2013 (we chose the date pretty soon after we announced our engagement). Everyone was excited, naturally, and said they all wanted to come. My family is very spread out across the US, and even out of country, so I knew it wouldn’t be the easiest thing to get together, but seeing as we usually have a family reunion once a year I thought they might just combine the two and have everyone come up for my wedding and have that be our family reunion. Everyone had already been talking about the need for an Alaskan reunion before I announced my engagement, so it seemed perfect!
Well, fast forward two weeks, and my cousin announces she’s engaged AND pregnant, so the spotlight is taken off of me and thrusted onto her immediately. I have to admit that I was a little bothered by this, as I’ve always been a bit of a black sheep in the family and was secretly excited for the attention from my family and thought I’d get a little more time to bask in it. Plus, this was my first marriage, and it was my cousin’s second marriage/third child, so I was kinda bummed since she’d already had time to soak up marriage-attention and had “stolen” mine. (I have to add, because I know how selfish I’m sounding, that I was ecstatic she was pregnant/getting married, she’s a super sweet lady and deserves everything she gets, but I was jealous).
So, long story short, she plans her wedding for May (just a three month engagement), and EVERYONE in my family goes to the wedding, spend about a week before/after the wedding hanging out with her, and now none of my extended family (besides my grandparents) are coming to my wedding because they spent all their extra money/vacation time going to hers.
I’m just hurt that they knew about my wedding before hers, but everyone chose to go to hers over mine. I just wish that some of them would have skipped my cousins wedding so that they could have come to mine instead, because I just feel really left out and unloved 🙁
Plus, my grandparents (the only ones coming to my wedding, since they can afford it) almost decided against coming because they didn’t want to travel in the winter, but my mom bribed them with a cruise (she’s going to fly down to Washington to meet up with them, and then they’re taking the ferry to Alaska… FIVE DAYS before my wedding) so they’d come. Which means my mom is going to be gone during a crucial time for me, just so that they’d agree to come up! My grandma even has a pinterest board titled “Alaskan Wedding!”….and all the pins are related to the ferry ride they’re taking, not about my wedding or me, which makes me feel like she’s more excited for the trip than to see me get married (I know that sounds dumb, but still!)
Ugh. Hopefully venting about this to you all helps me to feel less bitter, but right now I just feel poopy about it. 🙁 And hopefully I don’t sound like too much of a selfish brat, lol.