Post # 1
Hello : )
Here’s the thing. My husband and I got married last year before my husband deployed to afghanistan. We were living together in the state hes stationed in but decided to hold off on having a wedding until after deployment because the state we live in is too far away from any of our family and friends and I didn’t want to have to ask people to spend money to be there.
So anyways, the time has come and he gets back from the middle east within the next month 😀 so Im finally planning our wedding for during christmas leave this year.
Im just…not sure what we should do about the ceremony and how it should go? I dont want any bridal party (no grooms, bridesmaid, no flower girls etc). Would people be disappointed or bored if I just had my dad walk me down the isle and thats it?
Does anyone have suggestions on what short ceremonies could include??
We’re inviting about 65 people and probably around 40-50 will be there.
Post # 3
Every bride and groom are different, some want large wedding parties, some want none. I don’t think that is is boring at all, I actually like shorter ceremonies anyway. I think that you should just make sure that you ceremony is personal to the two of you, that is what people will come away remembering anyway.
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Post # 4
i think the most important thing is you, the bride. forget bridal party!! flower girls are prone to bad behavior anyway and bridesmaids can cause stress. i hope you have an awesome wedding day!
Post # 5
I’m not planning on having a huge bridal party. It’s your wedding, it’s about you and your husband.
Post # 6
I think no bridal party is fine. I had a bridal party and with the processional and recessional the entire ceremony was still under 15 minutes. It included the processional, short intro, vows, 1 short reading, exchanging the rings, a short couple’s rose ceremony, and then the recessional.
Post # 7
My husband came from the UK and we waited a long several months to finally find out he was approved at his interview and able to come. Purchasing his ticket right away (we missed each other a lot 😀 ) to get him here cost a big chunk of money. As we had to get married right away (no qualms, we knew what we were getting into) we had a short ceremony at the courthouse and are having a celebration and repeating of vows in front of both of our families. We definitely aren’t having a long ceremony, just repeating our vows in front of everyone, then celebrating our families being together for the first time. I see nothing wrong with a shorter ceremony, I don’t want to have a bridal party and don’t plan on having a bachelorette party, we both knew what we were getting ourselves into doing this. We just want to celebrate with both of our families and our friends together and its important for them and us to have us repeat our vows in front of them.
Post # 8
Our ceremony was about 40 minutes. We didn’t have a wedding party. Just my dad walking me down the aisle and our daughter as ring bearer. Instead we had a lot of music. 4 songs within the ceremony excluding recessional and processional.
Post # 9
We only had our siblings stand with us as MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man. Our ceremony was 7 minutes I think, lol. We actually had lots of people say they loved how short and sweet it was! The unity candle and all that stuff just wasn’t us so we skipped it and I don’t regret it at all.
Post # 10
No bridal party here either…..did not want drama and just one less thing to worry about. I think it’s a nice change from the usual. This is our wedding….not there’s. I don’t want the ceremony to be too long, I wanna mingle and dance. I’m sure the guests will not mind that either.
Post # 11
Mine will be super short .. no bridal party, no readings. Reckon it could be over in about 5 mins.lol
I don’t care what anyone else thinks … we’re doing what we want!
Post # 12
My wedding was pretty short and simple. No wedding party ect… Heck I didnt even have my dad walk me down the aisle because we wanted it to be about my groom and I. We had a 10 minute ceremony, and a short Sunday brunch afterwards with a cake cutting and one first dance. no other dancing or events. In all guests arrived around 11 am and left around 2:30. It was perfect for us. Do what is perfect for you two.
Post # 13
We are having a bridal party, but our ceremony will be pretty brief. Our officiant (a friend of mine) is going to say a few opening words, we’re having 2 readings (I think) and our vows. I’m pretty sure it’s going to be 15-20 minutes, tops.
Your ceremony is totally determined by what you want to include (and for the record, I have never heard anyone complain about a ceremony being too short!). Are there any religious elements that are important to you? Do you want any readings or songs, or do you just want to say your vows and call it good? It’s totally up to you!