Post # 1
hello everyone I was just curious. For those ladies out there that picked their own engagement rings out instead of your FI doing it all on his own, do you ever regret it? Or wish you could say “he did a great job!” I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with it. (I’m going to pick mine out myself cause I’m picky) just curious ! Thank you! And for ladies where he picked the ring by themselves were you happy with his choice?? was it what you would have chosen yourself? Thank you!
Post # 2
We picked ours out together and he insists that my ring (classic solitaire) is what he would have picked (except he says the diamond would have probably been smaller — haha!). We’ll never know if that’s really the case of course, but it makes me happy thinking that even if I was with him to pick it out, we ended up with the type of ring he always envisioned giving me.
Post # 3
I picked my ring and never regreted it. I love my husband but he has god awful taste, we’ve been married five years and he’s still crap at picking things out for me that he thinks I would like. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
We picked it out together. I handled the setting but the stone was mainly his decision. I was there for every second. I wish I had the surprise sometimes but FI was adamant that we plan it together. In the end we make a great team so it worked out fine. I’m glad that he encouraged me to get the setting I have because it reminded both of us of my grandmother’s ring.
Post # 5
We picked it together and I wouldnt do it any other way!! I got what I wanted but I also incorporated what he wanted.
Post # 6
My DH and I picked out the engagement ring together. This is the way DH wanted to do it. He didn’t have any idea what type of ring I would like, and he said he didn’t want to guess about it. He told me he didn’t want the pressure of going to do it all by himself — LOL! It still makes me laugh thinking back on it.
I would have been fine with him picking out the ring on his own. But I was also fine with doing it this way. I was just excited to know that he wanted to marry me and that we were getting engaged. I don’t regret it at all. I have really nice memories of the days that we went to different stores together, as well as the discussions we had. We were both excited and happy, and it was a wonderful time for us to share those feelings.
Post # 7
SimpleeAmbur: I picked it and definitely don’t regret it! I put about 0 value on “surprise” and would much rather know exactly what im getting and get exactly what I want in most areas of my life, especially when something is important and permanent like my ering was/is.
I can still say “he did well!” Because he is the one who purchased it after all….I am much more impressed by and see more value in the fact that he’s worked hard enough in his life to afford something so nice for me (and that he wanted to give me exactly what I wanted) than whether or not he managed to randomly guess exactly what I may want on my finger for the rest of my life. He feels the exact same way as he determined the budget himself and then gave me the option of choosing on my own.
I didn’t see the actual ring until he proposed, so there was still the amazing experience of seeing it for the first time in the moment. The details if the proposal day/events were planned by him entirely and I had nothing to do with that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
SimpleeAmbur: Not at all! It was fun, and we got something we both adored. It was a great decision for us.
Post # 9
We picked it out together, though really I did all the searching. I don’t regret at all. We each picked our own wedding bands, though we decided on the metal together. You’re the one who wears it, you should love it. I feel like for all the posters saying “he did such a great job” there are plenty who are posting about switching settings and not wanting to hurt his feelings.
Post # 10
My FI went shopping and tried to buy a ring. He narrowed it down to two options, but then freaked out about picking the right one… So then we decided to find one together. In the end, I picked one of the two that he had narrowed it down to anyway, without knowing!
I also think its super important to actually try on rings together. I had an image in my mind of what would be my “dream” ring. But when I tried it on, it looked awful! I ended up picking something entirely different. And I appreciated my FI’s input too, because he has to look at this thing for the rest of his life too!
Post # 11
SimpleeAmbur: We picked it together. I love it. I don’t regret it for a second. I have a fantastic memory of that day. It wasn’t planned, we stumbled across a great sale when I wanted to “look” at rings in NYC (we’d looked a million times before. This was not new.) And at one point he asked me ‘Is that your ring?’ when I was trying one on for the 2nd time. I got all hot and sweaty and had to take off my coat! (It was my ring! I told him that and he bought it there and then!) He proposed later (and still managed to surprise me).
We had discussed it a lot before hand. He knew I liked twisted split shanks, more diamonds than less, and halos. So he probably would have picked well.
I just asked if he would have picked that ring or something similar. His response “You aren’t exactly subtle. I knew the basics of what you wanted. And besides, I always had my consultant on stand by.” (The ‘consultant’ is my sister. He often texts her for guidance on gifts. It works out great for me!)
Post # 12
Not only did I pick it out myself, I worked with a jewelwer and custom designed my ring. Goodness knows what my husband would have picked out had he been left to his own devices…
I’d like to point out that I did not want an engagement ring at all; he insisted that we follow tradition. I only wanted an eternity band to wear as my wedding band.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I picked mine and don’t regret it.
Post # 14
I had “input” with my selection of my ring. (Actually it ended up being a vintage bridal set that we had some custom work done on).
I had mixed feelings about picking out my ring together as he and I had to compromise on our preferences. But I’ve been very happy with the result!
No regrets- we both love it, and I can still say he did a good job because I wasn’t sure what the final product would look like.
Post # 15
We looked at e-rings together, and then I gave him a few options since I didn’t really have a particular favorite at first glance. I also left it to him to pick the diamond. As time went on, I did develop a favorite, which he coincidentally picked well before I had established a fave. Plus, he picked a heluva diamond. He did a great job!