Post # 1
My Fiance is waiting for me to pick my ring (e-ring and band) and I can’t decide. I thought I wanted black and white diamonds and made a decision then had second thoughts. Now I’m thinking I might want a white diamond and pink morganite ring. Then I worry that I’ll regret my decision later.
How did you guys commit? Did you have trouble deciding?
Post # 3
I just knew when I found “the one.’ I kept looking and I kept coming back to it. I suggest you also consider what you will be happy wearing in 20 years.. I went to lots of jewelry stores first to see what actually looked good on my finger, then narrowed it down. Good luck!
Post # 4
@Jamieg: I’m def. not traditional by any means but I keep worrying about changing my mind later or when I’m older. I want to wear the same set forever… I keep going back to a couple rings. It’s so hard to choose.
Post # 6
Same. I kept going back to it… nothing could match it. Plus we had a strict budget, so yes, I found a lot of others I really really liked, but it would have been out of budget, so that determined it, more than anything lol
Post # 7
You have to go to the store and try things on but don’t let anyone try to push one style or cut on you. When it came to my ring, I was torn between a cushion or radiant cut diamond. In the end, I had the sales associate set both stones in my setting and compared which one I liked better. That way, I can literally see what the ring will look like on my hand every day. I wouldn’t advise setting stone after stone in the band, but if you are really torn, it does help. Worse case scenario, if you get the ring and hate it, you usually always have a window of time to return it and select something different.
Post # 8
once I saw MY ring, I knew. Nothing else could compare, though I did keep looking for awhile just to be sure. Good luck :-/ if you’re worried about changing your mind in the future maybe go for something more classic than the options you mentioned? Maybe you could have colored stones in your band or something
Post # 9
@MsMadHatter: I’m probably not your average ring picker so it took me almost 5 years to decide what I wanted.. I had a clue and once I saw the one I loved I kept coming back to it.. And as I’ve had more rings than you can count in a lifetime I found the one I missed the most when it was gone was “the one”.
My biggest fear was getting sick of it so I kept it as classic as possible but with a bit of my personality showing
Post # 10
I knew when I found “the one”. Then switched the center stone from princess to radiant because princess became to common in my circle, but the rest stayed the same. Ummmm and I keep making the center stone larger… But apart from that I totally committed to my ring HAHAHA. I spent MONTHS hunting down an online version of the ring I found in the shop. And other than going from a square to a rectangle and making it larger it’s the same one I fell in love with 2 years ago.
Post # 11
I just knew. I had never seen anything like it, and it was instant love. I have a quite unusual ring, though – a cube uncut diamond in a very, very modern geometric setting.
Post # 12
I am absolutely HORRIBLE with making decisions and commitment (aside from FI)..I have literally been a complete ball of stress since the beginning of wedding planning as I change my mind a bagillion times and have to make a bagillion decisions. When I was looking around at e-ring settings..it was no different. Until I put on one, and knew immediately it was thee “one” when I didn’t want to take it off and could not stop looking at it. If I can decide this easily, anyone can! LOL take your time and keep looking until you find the one that you don’t want to take off for the rest of your life. 🙂
Post # 13
I had been looking online for weeks and going into stores and nothing was catching my eye. I happened upon a ring that was a bit more than I wanted to pay but it was love at first sight. I went back to “visit” a couple times at the jewelry store, and finally a week later my Fiance and I went into the store to buy it. I haggled it down to a price I could swallow and I feel pretty content with having it on my finger as my forever ring.
I have to say that I have had a couple moments where I have some ring envy, but ultimately I chose something petite and unique that I really love. I love that I have never seen another ring on here like it, even if it is not a huge impressive rock. Though Mrs. Charpentier’s set really takes my breath away. 🙂
Post # 14
I think with all the hype about engagement rings, there is this idea that you can ‘get it wrong’ and have ‘regrets’. If you pick something you will like now, I don’t think that will change all that much. If you let your e ring become a competition with other peoples e rings, or you view an e ring as a trend item that can get out of fashion, then yeah, maybe that might cause discontent.
When I see other peoples e rings, I think they look beautiful, but I don’t love my e ring any less. My grandmothers sixty year old e ring is no less beautiful to me because it is ‘out of fashion’.
When I got a tattoo, I wondered if I might grow to hate it. Sure, I have changed as a person since those years ago, but I still love it. It’s a part of me, it represents something to me. I view an e ring the same way.
Don’t let doubt paralyse you. You are getting a token of love that yu have waited a long time for. It wil never bea regret.
Post # 15
I picked several different rings that I really liked and let Darling Husband make the ultimate decision about the one he liked the best. He did a great job because the one he picked was secretly my favorite!
Post # 16
I agree with PPs that you have to try it on to see what you like the look and feel of on your finger. But also keep in mind that you can grow to like something or at least become accustomed to it. I personally didn’t like how solitaires looked on my hand, and we ended up buying a pave diamond wedding band instead of an e-ring. Then, we used my grandmother’s ring for the e-ring. At first, I didn’t feel too strongly about my grandmother’s ring (as in the style wasn’t something I loved), but I figured it was ony for 18 months and then I would wear only the wedding band. Now, after wearing the e-ring for a few months, I really like it, but I will still wear only the wedding band after we marry. For daily wear, I think I prefer a ring with a low profile (personal preference).
Would you be able to try on the rings or would they have to be specially ordered/made with the other gemstones?
Anyway, not sure how helpful that was, but good luck!! I think it’s great that Fiance is involving you in the decision process!