Post # 1
We hear all the time on here about how the guy proposes to his lady or how the girl wishes her man would propose or how she’s waiting and waiting for him to finally pop the question. I wanna hear the stories about the women who decided to change it up and take charge. How did you ask your boyfriend to marry you? What made you decide to switch roles? Did it just happen at random? Did you plan something special? How did he react?
Post # 3
I asked FI to marry me on Halloween of last year. I’d been playing the waiting game when one day, he did something really sweet and selfless and I realized that I didn’t care if I had a pretty ring or some eleborate proposal, I just wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. So I shut up about it and began planning. Somewhere in the process, he found out what I was planning (he’d gone through my phone and saw pics of the rings I was looking at for him) and didn’t give me any trouble. I knew he’d been waiting for some reason to ask me, but it was one of those indefinite, “I don’t know when, but at somepoint when the stars align and a soothsayer says his sooths, I’ll ask,” type things. He just said, jokingly, that he just wanted a big rock. He was willing to go get sized for a ring, though, and let me do my thing. He could tell I was getting excited to ask him. A lot of what I’d originally planned fell through or went all wrong, but what ended up happening was that I rushed through a semi-romantic non-speech, launched a fidgety kitten at him, got down on one knee and presented him with a ring (that didn’t fit and can’t be resized) and asked him to marry me. He laughed and said yes. Then I made him his favorite dinner and we got into our costumes, reminiscent of the first halloween we spent together (shortly after meeting, before dating), and went bowling with some friends.
When we celebrated Valentine’s Day, he presented me with my ring (he’d been waiting for his mother to upgrade as she promised me her wedding set) after cooking us dinner and my surprising him with a glass blowing event.
I’ve told him about what I’d originally planned, and he agreed that he would have loved it, but what happened is definitely us. I’m glad that I asked. He’s definitely not the romantic type and I would have wanted some meaningful gesture that would just stress him out. This let me have fun planning something amazing for him and enjoy the fantastic proposal of my dreams even though I was the one asking.
Post # 4
Seriously, guys? I know I’m not the only one!
Post # 4
Old thread, but I am curious to know if anyone else went this way.
when I tried proposing, he turned it down because proposing was something he wanted to do. He saw it as his ‘job’ – so much so that he didnt actually think I was in any way serious when I asked him. It literally did not occur to him until months later that I was actually trying to actually propose when I had flat out asked, “will you marry me?”
Post # 5
I proposed to my man. I got him his ring aand gave it to him on his birthday with spoon that said be mine for as long as we both shall live and the spoon and the ring were inside a box of peach cobbler. It was a SWEET proposal.
Post # 6
My husband is a huge nerd, and he was SO EXCITED for a trip to New Zealand, so we could see the set of the Lord of the Rings. I knew he wasn’t going to propose because I’d spent the previous 4 years telling him I didn’t want to ever get married. Once I changed my mind, I got really excited about planning a proposal just for him. I bought a replica of the ring from the movie, in addition to a real mangagement ring, and when we were posing for a picture in front of a Hobbit house, I got down on one knee. Later, we used the ring as a cake topper.
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Post # 8
Bump! With an uber-nerdy story of my own!
I proposed to FI on his birthday. I happen to not believe in “if he doesn’t ask, he isn’t ready for marriage” bullcrap. I knew he was ready from conversations we’d had, and I was more than ready. So I decided to propose to him… in Ancient Greek! 😀 We’re both in grad school for linguistics, and he’s really into philology, his Masters thesis is about Ancient Greek, so I thought I’d make the proposal special and personal.
I did some research on internet and found out what letters to write. Just before Christmas (his birthday is in January) we went to an antiquarian and saw an old copy of the New Tedtament in its original language – Ancient Greek. He really wanted it, and I bought it to give him on his birthday. So he knew about the present, but little did he know that I had written ‘will you marry me?” in Ancient Greek with a gold coloured pen inside!
When he opened his present, my heart was racing. I knew he’d say yes, otherwise I would never ask. When he opened the book and saw the writing, he read it over and over again, looked me in the eyes and said “does this say what I think it says?” I said “Yes, will you marry me?” He got teary-eyed and said yes. This book is now his most precious belonging.
My birthday being exactly three weeks after his, we went together and chose a ring for me, which he gave me on my birthday… with the word “Dualis” engraved in it! (Linguistic nerdy thing; a declension that is not plural, but dual.)
Post # 9
Wow! You ladies really planned it out! I just looked at my SO one day and said “We gonna get married or what?” And he said “Yea, how about Halloween?”
True story. But neither of us are super romantic and we are both very blunt so it worked for us. I’m glad to hear of other ladies proposing!
Post # 10
These engagement stories are so cute!