Post # 1
Please share your experiences with the pregnancy while already having a little one….. or already had the baby AND have a little one running around….
Also, if you could have a “do-over” would you do it again? Why/not?
Post # 3
I just got my BFP for our second child, our first is five. The only thing I can say really is that my daughter isn’t too happy I can’t pick her up now but it was getting to that time anyways.
i know new babies can cause jealousy on the older ones so my DH and I have plans to redo our daughters room to make sure she still feels special, around the time we set up the nursery.
we are also letting our girl be involved with the baby, diaper changes feelings etc when it’s born. We tell her we are all getting a baby, even her. She is so excited, maybe even more excited than we are
Post # 4
We only have 1 child, but I can tell you the experience my SIL/BIL have had with their now 4 yr old and now 1 yr old. The 4 yr old was fine during my SIL pregnancy the issues started after the now 1 yr old was born. Alot of it stems though my SIL is a SAHM and so the 4 yr old was always center of attention until the baby came along. A lot of jealously issues and the 4 year old trying to “love” the baby up to the point she would hurt the baby.
The issues seem to be slowly going away though the 4 yr old still wants attention and is still quite needy.
Post # 5
@trulyblessed: I had 3 kids 2 and under. Older DD was 24 months when the twins were born. I would totally do it the same way again.
When I was on limited activity I would lay on the floor and play with older DD because it was easier on my body.
Older DD stayed in her crib until 2.6 years. I could put her in her crib for bed time, or nap, then deal with the babies if quiet was Needed.
Post # 6
My son si 21 months and I Just gave birth to m’y daughter 2 days ago. We are not out of the hospital yet but they briefly met yesterday. So far So good. I’ll post more when We settle in a routine à home.
Post # 7
I had 2 under 2…. my dd was 17 months old when my 2nd ds was born. I was so scared how to handle 2 kids under 2 but after I got the hang of it, I loved it. I love how close they are and since my dd was so young, she didn’t develope any jealous tendancies at all… it also helped that I had my mil right next door to help and so dd spent a lot of time with her grandma too so I could tend to baby.
I now have 4 kids…. baby is 3 weeks old tomorrow. My second son is now 5 and not jealous at all… he and I are very close and he loves his little brother. My dd is now almost 6 and a half and she LOVES the baby, she wants to help change him, hold him, burp him, etc. My oldedt is 13.
Post # 8
Once, when I thought I couldnt take it anymore, a wise old woman told me. If you want your children to bond and love it each and be protective, involve them in everything you do for the LO.
Use words like ‘our’ baby (or insert name) let the other child talk to as well as touch baby as you explain how ‘our’ baby is the best baby and we love ‘our’ baby etc
if you are bathing ‘our’ baby, make sure your child also take a bathe at the same time and DH can also help you here as you bond as a family. Make a fuss about how baby smells and ask them to smell, send them to bring ‘our’ baby a pamper so you can change them while your child watches …. basically involve them and make them feel like they are the world to ‘our’ baby. It works.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for sharing your experience…. I think that have small children close in age can be very challenging and yet rewarding at the same time. Congrats to all the mommas who just had a baby, very exciting times. DH and I would like to have one more child (our son is now 6 months) and we would like for them to be close in age for a few reasons so we are just trying to figure out when we should start. Thanks again!!! Good luck to everyone!