Post # 1
Or do you notice a difference between your completely healed post pregnancy vagina vs. pre pregnancy vagina?
I am researching between elective C-sections and vaginal delivery. I’ve had close family members tell me they had better experiences with an elective C-section but I also know that vaginal deliveries are supposed to be less risky. I am worried about healing either way. I’ve heard bad stories about both options (incision infection vs. a complete tear).
What I don’t want is to be in labor for like 18 hours and then end up with an emergency c section. I’m still in the beginning stages of researching. Would they be able to tell you beforehand if baby would get stuck or won’t fit through due to the size of your pelvis? My nurse practicioner says they have everyone go through labor and if it doesn’t work they do the c section. I’m a little worried because I am on the small side though she did comfort me and told me that I would be suprised at some of the sizes of babies that come out of petite women vaginally.
Post # 3
I’m totally happy to report that my DH cannot tell I’ve ever birthed a baby before.
Post # 4
Mine works just fine! LOL. I am 5’3″ and had a baby who weighed over 8 pounds. That said, I barely avoided a c-section because she did not want to come out.
Post # 5
Yeah, it’s fine. It’s really pretty rare that you’d grow a baby you can’t deliver vaginally (according to my doula). I had a small tear, but it healed quickly. My non-scientific poll of friends who birthed vaginally v c-section says the c-section recovery was more rough.
Post # 6
DH says it feels better. I wouldn’t choose a c-section just because I don’t want my vagina to change though. I would only have a c-section if it was absolutely necessary.
Post # 7
@hspw714: Before you even get to far down the road of decision making you should talk with your doctor. Many doctors now don’t just let you choose a c-section just because you don’t want a vaginal delivery. There’s a big push for reduction in elective c-sections.
That being said, everyone I know who has given birth vaginally has gone back to normal after. That’s what the courtesy stitch is for.
Post # 8
Is the courtesy stitch really a thing or is it just a universal joke that everyone tells? 😛
Post # 9
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A C section is major abdominal surgery and it takes longer to recover than from a vaginal delivery. It doesn’t seem like a big deal but a friend of mine had an elective C section and while her scar was healing she couldn’t pick her baby up because reaching into the crib hurt too much. Then the scar got infected and she had to go to the doctor twice a day for 4 weeks to have it flushed and repacked with gauze (it finally healed but for a while she had a huge hole in her belly.) That was enough to scare me away from a C section unless I absolutely need one.
Post # 10
@hspw714: You options may be limited to common practice, wherever you are. For example, in Taiwan and Hong Kong, elective C-sections are the norm. In Japan, natural births are assumed unless you ask for meds. And in North America, there doesn’t seem to be one thing that everybody does for sure, but I’ve heard that it’s harder to find physicians who will allow elective C-sections.
Post # 11
@ChicFoodist: Haha, I don’t actually know, but my sister just had her second baby, had a very minor tear that didn’t need stitches, but the doctor asked if she wanted one anyways for “good measure” lol.
Post # 13
The courtesy stitch is a joke thing. I’ve never had a vaginal birth but I had a horrifying conversations with some co workers before I was a parent. My guy co workers ( all bartenders and complete man whores) swore that after one kid you couldn’t really tell but after two you could definitely feel the difference. But your husband is going to love you and sex with you no matter what so I wouldn’t be too worried. Although I’d be lying if before the birth of my first child we didnt have sex the night before induction just in case I “ruined” my vagina, lol. That convo happened in 2007 and I still can’t forget it!
Post # 14
@hspw714: I had a med-free vaginal delivery. I did have a small tear, and had 5 stitches. I looked with a mirror after about a week and it was definitely different. After about 3 months, it looked more like normal. At this point (9 mo pp) I can’t even see where it tore at all. As far as tightness, DH says by now it feels just like before. The first few times we had sex it was almost too tight, but I was also breastfeeding which made it a little dry. A little lube and there was no problem at all.
Here are some things you can do to prevent tearing:
-DO NOT HAVE AN EPISOTOMY! (if you are wondering why, just read iarebridezilla’s birth story)
-Perineum massage before and during delivery
-giving birth in the water
I also think being able to be in a squatting position (or in an all-four’s position) helps to open the pelvis enough to accommodate the passage of a baby. Laying on your back kind of prevents gravity from helping out.
Also, if you have an epidural and can’t feel or move your legs, it is possible to push SO hard that you tear more or get hemorrhoids. Tears and hemmorhoids are, of course, possible in any vaginal delivery, but I found that having no pain meds helped me work with my body and push when I felt the urge, and stop when I needed a break. I have also heard that they can essentially ‘turn down’ your epi enough that you can feel the pressure, which I imagine would make it easier to control the pushing as well.
Having never had a c section, I can’t remark on the recovery, but I do know that statistically speaking, infant and maternal mortality rates are better with vaginal deliveries when possible. There are always going to be medical reasons for c sections, but personally, having researched and read the statistics and evidence-based birthing resources, would never choose to have a c section electively.
Post # 16
I would be incredibly wary of any doctor who was willing to preform unecessary major surgery. my vagina is exactly the same as it was before having a baby, and I was up and running around a few hours after giving birth. your vagina is made to accomadate giving birth, the whole purpose of your reproductive organs is to , you know, reproduce so they’re pretty good at it! sure the first few weeks after giving birth is was a little bit of a disaster down there, as well as everywhere else, but everything went right back into place. I know far more women who’ve had trouble getting their abs back after a cesarian than women who’ve had issues with their vaginas.