Post # 1
When people call you “Mrs. [insert husband’s last name]” do you correct them or go with it?
I’m addressed by my husband’s last name frequently and sometimes people think I am being rude when I don’t answer- I honestly don’t always recognize I’m being spoken to.
All that said, I always feel a little bad correcting people (especially my husband’s superiors). I don’t know if this is rational, but I worry it makes him look like less of a man (if that makes sense). Thoughts?
Post # 3
I correct them if they are someone I care at all about or will ever interact with again. For example, if a hotel desk worker calls me Mrs. HisName, I don’t correct him/her. If a distant family member, friend’s parent, husband’s friend calls me Mrs. HisName, I gently correct them. I say something along the lines of “Oh, I actually kept my name, so it’s Firstname MyLast. But call me Firstname!” I honestly feel that it’s completely appropriate to correct people when they call me the wrong name. If someone changed their name upon marriage, and was called Mrs. MaidenName, they would undoubtedly say “Oh, I got married, now it’s Mrs. HisName,” so I see absolutely no reason I shouldn’t do the same thing. The only reason I don’t correct people who I will not interact with again is that it really isn’t important to me that they know my real name, and it isn’t worth the time to me. Don’t feel bad about it- it is your name and you deserve to have people get it right!! I don’t think you should worry about him seeming like less of a man- in fact, I would argue that he is MORE of a man because he respects you and your preferences. 🙂
Post # 4
i dont correct them because honestly me being called Mrs or Ms so and so happens rarely
when people who i will be meeting repeatedly call me Mrs S instead of Ms L i will correct them with a simple i didnt change my name so my name is [first name] [last name] and ask them to call me by my first name
when it comes to hotel bookings etc my husband is often the person that is called Mr L/my last name and he never blinks – hes use to it
Post # 5
I don’t really care. Socially, I’m planning on going by his name, but at work will stick with mine (for now anyway). I don’t really care if people call me by his, mine, or some combination of our names. If it’s for something important I’ll correct someone.
Post # 6
I don’t tend to correct people when they call me “Mrs Hislastname”. Additionally, Darling Husband doesn’t correct people when he gets called “Mr Mylastname”. We just figure it’s part of having different last names.
Darling Husband isn’t bothered by me keeping my name, which is all that really matters. We usually say something like “yeah, we’re one of those couples” in a joking way or he says something like “well I wasn’t going to change my name” to make people not feel aqward about calling me or him the wrong last name.
Post # 7
My husband doesn’t care either, but it is a little awkward at times. I used to never worry about the Mr/Mrs thing.. but now he’s in the military so I’m always addressed as Mrs. [his last name]. I was in a sensitive mood when I wrote this because I applied to grad school and they called to find out my maiden name.. the response I got from the person was disapproving. I’m over it 🙂