(Closed) Ladies who kept their maiden names after marriage.. a two part question

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
20 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

I correct them if they are someone I care at all about or will ever interact with again.  For example, if a hotel desk worker calls me Mrs. HisName, I don’t correct him/her.  If a distant family member, friend’s parent, husband’s friend calls me Mrs. HisName, I gently correct them.  I say something along the lines of “Oh, I actually kept my name, so it’s Firstname MyLast.  But call me Firstname!”  I honestly feel that it’s completely appropriate to correct people when they call me the wrong name.  If someone changed their name upon marriage, and was called Mrs. MaidenName, they would undoubtedly say “Oh, I got married, now it’s Mrs. HisName,” so I see absolutely no reason I shouldn’t do the same thing.  The only reason I don’t correct people who I will not interact with again is that it really isn’t important to me that they know my real name, and it isn’t worth the time to me.  Don’t feel bad about it- it is your name and you deserve to have people get it right!!    I don’t think you should worry about him seeming like less of a man- in fact, I would argue that he is MORE of a man because he respects you and your preferences.  🙂

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont correct them because honestly me being called Mrs or Ms so and so happens rarely

when people who i will be meeting repeatedly call me Mrs S instead of Ms L i will correct them with a simple i didnt change my name so my name is [first name] [last name] and ask them to call me by my first name

when it comes to hotel bookings etc my husband is often the person that is called Mr L/my last name and he never blinks – hes use to it

Post # 5
10565 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t really care.  Socially, I’m planning on going by his name, but at work will stick with mine (for now anyway).  I don’t really care if people call me by his, mine, or some combination of our names.  If it’s for something important I’ll correct someone.

Post # 6
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I don’t tend to correct people when they call me “Mrs Hislastname”.  Additionally, Darling Husband doesn’t correct people when he gets called “Mr Mylastname”.  We just figure it’s part of having different last names.

Darling Husband isn’t bothered by me keeping my name, which is all that really matters.  We usually say something like “yeah, we’re one of those couples” in a joking way or he says something like “well I wasn’t going to change my name” to make people not feel aqward about calling me or him the wrong last name.

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