- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I found out yesterday that my SIL’s first round of IVF has failed, and I want to show her support, but I don’t want to make her feel worse, so I was hoping that some of you ladies who’ve sadly been through the same can give me some advice.
Some background: I am only on cycle 3 of TTC, so really have no idea what ladies who have had problems over extended periods are going through. My SIL has been, in total, NTNT or TTC for around 4 years, and is 35. Last year she had 2 successive ectopic pregnancies, which resulted in the removal of one ovary and fallopian tube. Doctors seem to think the only problem she has is that her fallopian tubes don’t work – everything else is working as it should. However, yesterday she was tested following her first round of IVF, and it had failed, and, worse, there are no more viable embryos to try again with, so if she wants to try again, she needs to do the whole thing from scratch.
She’s obviously devastated. We live in different cities, around 5 hours apart, so I can’t easily visit her or be there physically. I’ve been in touch with her over the phone, but part of me wants to do more, like send flowers or something to just say “This is awful, and I’m thinking of you, and I care about you” or whether that would just make things harder. I just don’t want to say or do anything to make things worse.
Ladies who’ve been through this, what did people do/say that helped, and what did they do/say that made you want to smack them?