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Somedays are hard. Other days I can't believe it's almost here. I am bouncing off the walls that things like showers and dress fittings are actually REAL and HAPPENING.
I started planning early. I thought "may as well." It's actually helped, since there's no pressure. We pick what we like and move on to the next thing.
Well i am stressed about planning it! We are starting now and finding the most important thing a VENUE has been the hardest thing in the world! i have all these ideas i just need a venue so i can go from there. I actually went to the doctor yesterday because of a really bad pain in my chest and he said i am too stressed (yup over the wedding saving for it planning it and finding a venue dont even get me started on the wedding party!) and its causing my mucsles to be tense and its creating a horrible pain in my left arm! all that because of a wedding. i rather elope now! ha ha
Yeah I really wish we could elope too. I cant sleep thinking about this wedding. I think it being so far away makes it some forbidden, tempting fruit.
well - just coming OFF of a two year engagement (with 14 of those 24 months "legally married")...we "technically" had a long engagement.
we've been planning this wedding now since June 30 of 2008 - and o.m.g. I can not begin to tell you how stressful the last two years have been! only a handful of people in real life even know we ARE legally married (insurance reasons)...so to most of the world we HAVE been engaged for the past two years...and a stressful two years it's been.
the onlly reason I'M the one who decided we should wait two years is because I thought we'd have more $$ for our wedding if we waited. yeah. not so much! lol. but it's all good. just wanted to say - though - i feel ya...i totally went insane AGES ago and keep looking at that 11th day from today as a "light at the end of the tunnel!"
anyways - just want to say, good luck!!
Not very well...especially considering that I was supposed to be married this past December...LOL. I am kinda eloping b/c we have decided that we are having a quiet ceremony at the house next month....just us and the kids. My FI's dad is going to marry us. I have had enough of living apart. I want it done with RIGHT NOW....LOL.
Bah! I know what you mean! My FI and I are planning on getting married in 2012 so we can both save up for the wedding. I feel like I can't get anything done until we find our venue first, or at least decide on whether it's a church, outside, or whatever wedding. I feel like I'm losing my steam and everything is getting extremely overwhelming as far as planning is concerned. One of my good friends is getting married this August and I went with her last week to a dress fitting. I'm not sure why, but walking into the bridal shop and looking at all of the different gowns to choose from made my heart race! And I wasn't even there to look for myself! What if I go shopping now and pick out a dress, only to find that in two years, I hate it? Or what if we pick out our colors, buy things in those colors, and want to change it later?! Two years is so far away in my mind!
I have to remind myself to take a deep breath. I hope you aren't as overwhelmed as I am.
There are definitely times when I feel like going crazy--especially when friends who got engaged after us are getting married before us. or friends who got engaged a week before us got married like a year and 1/2 before us We decided to have a long engagement because of school.
I really want to get married and I'm SO excited to be in the last year so I can actually finally start planning things and not have people look at me like a crazy person.
I really don't know how I'm handling it and not freaking out more. I guess I just got used to the idea of having a really long engagment so it hasn't been bothering me much.
You sound just like me when I got engaged a loooong time back! I think you can start planning some things like the date and the venue. But you are right, its not fun to be stuck in the early stages when you are super excited, but have nothing to do. Dont worry! The months will pass quickly and soon it will be time to do some heavy planning. And before you know it, the day will finally arrive!
Its funny, I go through moments where I feel it will never get here, that our engagement is way too crazy long (2.5 years), and i was embarrassed to even tell people when our wedding date is. Then there are times (like this past month) where i'm freaking out that i have "no time". [insert laugh here]
trust me, the months go by so fast!!!!!! plan what you can now. date and a venue is a great start...after that gather all and every piece of inspiration you can. That has most definitely been what i poured my energy into and now i'm FINALLY at a point where i can start executing my ideas and i'm ready to roll with 1 year and 4 months to go!
hang in there though, i know its frustrating!! :D
I never intended to have a long engagment but the boy proposed in dec 09....it took us a few months to decide on what time of year we wanted to get married and then settle on a venue so it's to be about 22-23 month engagement.
I am detail person so I like looking at the options and playing around with ideas. I feel as though I have the time to do everything I want although I can't believe I've been engaged for 6 months already!!
It'll go by quicker than you realize!
I'm somewhere between driving myself crazy and doing really well.
The perks? We're locking in a good price on our venue, which we adore, and I don't feel like planning is stressful because there's so much time.
The downfall is that when we went on our venue visit on Friday, I had in been in a planning lull. It was finals/apartment moving time, and I was content not to think about the wedding. But seeing the awesome space got me eager to look into things that it would be silly to right now - like flowers - since we're so far out.
I wish we were a bit closer to the wedding, but it doesn't bother me too much. Our total engagement time when we get married will be almost 2 1/2 years, we're 6 months in right now.
We had/are having a 27 month engagement. I thought I would be done with school by the time of the wedding, but things happened and now I wont be graduating til the spring. I knew I wanted 10/10/10 from the beginning so I booked all my major vendors 1.5-2 years in advance. Now that it's time to work on little projects, it's exciting but I don't feel busy enough. I feel like an inferior bride because I barely spend any time on the wedding.
Make some time for non-wedding nights. No talking about weddings allowed! Eventually your FI and your friends will get sick of hearing about it.
Ours was a 2 year, 5 month engagement! Believe me, by the last few months I was dying to just have the wedding already! Hang in there - once those last couple of months hit it goes by very very fast. We've already been married a month and it totally does not seem like it has been that long at all!
I agree bloodgo1!! The past six months have flown by and I know the next 4 months will too. I'm trying to stay on top of projects so they don't build up in the last few months.
My sister/MOH is having a baby (possibly tonight) so that has been a welcome distraction when I need it!
Also, I'll be really excited to see the 2012 boards go up!
well.. ive been doing fine... we've been engaged for about 4 years (wanted to wait until i finished college). weve been living together for about a year and a half. i plan a little bit of the wedding everyday so its not stressful and im not overwhelmed. i do agree that time flies... I'm thinking back.. I started making the invitations and envelopes from scratch in december and will be mailing them this friday.. and i did my reservations for the hall and decor in jan, and i think wow.... 6-7 months just flew by like its nothing. i still have about 4 more months with not much left to do. Just have to finalize decorations, counts, and get the caterer situation taken care of (the only thing the fh and i have bumped heads on).
you have plenty of time to plan with a little less than 2 years to go.. just keep your cool and do a little at a time. i believe weddings aren't something to rush into. if he's the one for you.. you guys can wait. patience is needed in a successful marriage.
I can understand. Our engagement is 35 months long, (we got engaged Nov. 2008) but time has definitley gone by quickly. I didn't really start thinking about our wedding until 8 months after our engagment, and didn't really start planning until Jan. 2010. It did feel weird and I felt like our relationship was at a standstill becuase our date was soo far away, but it was best for us and we were more comfortable with a longer engagement, than rushing into something we may have not been ready for. Just take it a day at a time and before you know it, your day will be a year away, than 6 months away, then a night away. It's an exciting process and the wait will be worth it! :)
my engagement will be 2 years 6 months and 23 days.. but who is counting. I am almost on year out and all i can say is about time. i did book the venue about 9 months ago and have just been gathering ideas of things i like up until recently, church and dress and STD are done and now the real planning begins... but honestly i asked FI to elope because i was going crazy.. his response was you should have thought of that before we put the non refundable deposit on the venue. lol. fine i will wait! but no worries Aubergold your time will come!!
Mine will be 2 years, 4 months by the time December 2011 rolls around...for awhile I hated it, but now I'm really glad! This will probably change again (and again and again and again) in the next 1.5 years, but FI and I are both in school, and it's great to be able to do something, check it off the list, move on, take a break when school gets crazy, make a little more progress, etc. I gave myself permission (and my parents gave us the go-ahead, and FI is on board) to just start planning already! We have our venue (therefore date) nailed down, caterer contracted, dress selected (and paid 50%), just-in-case shoes purchased, wedding bands ordered, and photographer lined up, and I worry a little about changing my mind, but then I revisit the decisions we've made and fall in love all over again. It's kind of a relief to get the big stuff out of the way early!
I'm now a little more than 11 months away from my wedding. I've been engaged 19 mo already! lol
Originally we were supposed to get married Sept 09. Then I had a car accident and we pushed it to Sept 2010. But someone waited too long to book our venue..*cough* and it was booked through dec.
So we had to change our date to 2011. Yikes...lol. Looong engagement. Mostly I would just stay off of wedding sites and stuff like that until I was really ready to plan. In January (around the 17 mo mark) I started researching caterers and coordinators. Booked those, and now I'm onto some of my other vendors, working on my projects. Now that I'm under the one year mark it feels like time is flying by!
I'm with you guys! I've been engaged since Dec 2008, and won't be married until sometime after May 2012! (THATS FOUR YEARS!) I drive myself crazy looking at this blog and magazines. My FI thinks I'm obsessive...I tell him I'm just excited! I can't wait to be done with school and move back home (we moved away so I could go to school) and really plan this thing.
The wrench in the plan is that now we are chosing between a destination wedding (DR, Bahamas, Jamaica) and a regular wedding. DW is a better option because we haven't bought a home yet....but....I still find my heart wanting a "real" wedding. At least I have time to think it out!
How do you guys really pick one thing and stick with the entire engagement? Or do you flip flop back and forth until you don't have time to flop anymore?
My FI and I will married for almost 2 and a half years when we finally get married. I actually really like the long engagement. My Fi and I are already living together so that may help with the waiting process.
I don't know how people get everything done in a year? Having this much time has allowed me to do a lot of DIY stuff and have the time to wait for things to go on sale. I have the time to stew over decisions and really spend time on each decision. Paying for the wedding doesn't pack the same punch when it is spread out of a longer time.
I too am obsessed with my wedding... sometimes I feel like I am doing things way TOO early. However I would recommend a long engagement to anyone! A wedding is a once in a life time event and so is the engagement/planning process!
I've got a 26month engagement on my hands and yes I do feel like a nutcase drooling over blogs and sites and books (oh my!) BUT we're waiting for me to finish grad school (fall 2011) and hopefully once school starts back up, I won't have too much free time to spend on obsessive wedding planning (haha). But like many have said, I think having all this time to think about it is a good thing because I won't feel rushed when it's really go-time!
If I were in your position, I guess I would be looking at photos, starting a folder with things you like, and maybe even checking out a few venues, unless you already know where you want to do everything?
Maybe if you do a few things now, you can enjoy your engagement? I can tell you that I ordered my dress 13 months ahead and the shop told me that was perfect. So, maybe you can start doing that, too.
Ugh I hate to think about how far away it is! lol Mostly I just look up inspiration pics so I will have a good idea of what our day will look like. Im keeping myself occupied with my BFF wedding in october for now hehe
I just go on weddingbee everyday :) haha. The only thing that kind of helps is saving money now. Knowing that I started to save makes it feel real - that I am saving now for MY wedding. If you listen to it, it may sound like my wedding is a few months away (lol). Like for instance, let's say I put away $500 this month for the wedding. I just say to myself "that can be for my dress"...things like that. But talking to people doesn't help. I feel like half of the time they think it's not going to happen since it's so far away!
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Im going nuts. I feel like I have nothing to do and am just in purgatory. Gosh I want to be married NOW or at least start planning but it seems so pointless.
Im afraid Im going to miss out on this time in our lives cause Im literally obssessed with weddings and marriage right now. All I read are wedding magazines, blogs, advise columns. And believe me I have a life and a job! I just cant help myself. Maybe it's b/c I initially thought I'd be a 2011 bride and I just cant get over it.
Mind you Im having a 28 month engagement; I want to shoot myself, haha.
How are you doing?