(Closed) Ladies with two years (or more) engagements….How are you surviving?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Somedays are hard.  Other days I can’t believe it’s almost here.  I am bouncing off the walls that things like showers and dress fittings are actually REAL and HAPPENING.

I started planning early.  I thought “may as well.”  It’s actually helped, since there’s no pressure.  We pick what we like and move on to the next thing.

Post # 4
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1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well i am stressed about planning it! We are starting now and finding the most important thing a VENUE has been the hardest thing in the world! i have all these ideas i just need a venue so i can go from there. I actually went to the doctor yesterday because of a really bad pain in my chest and he said i am too stressed (yup over the wedding saving for it planning it and finding a venue dont even get me started on the wedding party!) and its causing my mucsles to be tense and its creating a horrible pain in my left arm! all that because of a wedding. i rather elope now! ha ha

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

well – just coming OFF of a two year engagement (with 14 of those 24 months “legally married”)…we “technically” had a long engagement.

we’ve been planning this wedding now since June 30 of 2008 – and o.m.g. I can not begin to tell you how stressful the last two years have been! only a handful of people in real life even know we ARE legally married (insurance reasons)…so to most of the world we HAVE been engaged for the past two years…and a stressful two years it’s been.

the onlly reason I’M the one who decided we should wait two years is because I thought we’d have more $$ for our wedding if we waited. yeah. not so much! lol. but it’s all good. just wanted to say – though – i feel ya…i totally went insane AGES ago and keep looking at that 11th day from today as a “light at the end of the tunnel!”

anyways – just want to say, good luck!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not very well…especially considering that I was supposed to be married this past December…LOL. I am kinda eloping b/c we have decided that we are having a quiet ceremony at the house next month….just us and the kids. My FI’s dad is going to marry us. I have had enough of living apart. I want it done with RIGHT NOW….LOL.

Post # 8
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2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Bah!  I know what you mean!  My FI and I are planning on getting married in 2012 so we can both save up for the wedding.  I feel like I can’t get anything done until we find our venue first, or at least decide on whether it’s a church, outside, or whatever wedding.  I feel like I’m losing my steam and everything is getting extremely overwhelming as far as planning is concerned.  One of my good friends is getting married this August and I went with her last week to a dress fitting.  I’m not sure why, but walking into the bridal shop and looking at all of the different gowns to choose from made my heart race!  And I wasn’t even there to look for myself!  What if I go shopping now and pick out a dress, only to find that in two years, I hate it?  Or what if we pick out our colors, buy things in those colors, and want to change it later?!  Two years is so far away in my mind!

I have to remind myself to take a deep breath.  I hope you aren’t as overwhelmed as I am.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

There are definitely times when I feel like going crazy–especially when friends who got engaged after us are getting married before us. or friends who got engaged a week before us got married like a year and 1/2 before us We decided to have a long engagement because of school.

I really want to get married and I’m SO excited to be in the last year so I can actually finally start planning things and not have people look at me like a crazy person.

I really don’t know how I’m handling it and not freaking out more. I guess I just got used to the idea of having a really long engagment so it hasn’t been bothering me much.

Post # 10
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You sound just like me when I got engaged a loooong time back! I think you can start planning some things like the date and the venue. But you are right, its not fun to be stuck in the early stages when you are super excited, but have nothing to do. Dont worry! The months will pass quickly and soon it will be time to do some heavy planning. And before you know it, the day will finally arrive!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Its funny, I go through moments where I feel it will never get here, that our engagement is way too crazy long (2.5 years), and i was embarrassed to even tell people when our wedding date is. Then there are times (like this past month) where i’m freaking out that i have “no time”. [insert laugh here]

trust me, the months go by so fast!!!!!! plan what you can now. date and a venue is a great start…after that gather all and every piece of inspiration you can. That has most definitely been what i poured my energy into and now i’m FINALLY at a point where i can start executing my ideas and i’m ready to roll with 1 year and 4 months to go!

hang in there though, i know its frustrating!! 😀

Post # 12
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I never intended to have a long engagment but the boy proposed in dec 09….it took us a few months to decide on what time of year we wanted to get married and then settle on a venue so it’s to be about 22-23 month engagement.

I am detail person so I like looking at the options and playing around with ideas. I feel as though I have the time to do everything I want although I can’t believe I’ve been engaged for 6 months already!!

It’ll go by quicker than you realize!

Post # 13
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m somewhere between driving myself crazy and doing really well. 

The perks? We’re locking in a good price on our venue, which we adore, and I don’t feel like planning is stressful because there’s so much time. 

The downfall is that when we went on our venue visit on Friday, I had in been in a planning lull. It was finals/apartment moving time, and I was content not to think about the wedding. But seeing the awesome space got me eager to look into things that it would be silly to right now – like flowers – since we’re so far out. 

I wish we were a bit closer to the wedding, but it doesn’t bother me too much. Our total engagement time when we get married will be almost 2 1/2 years, we’re 6 months in right now. 

Post # 14
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had/are having a 27 month engagement.  I thought I would be done with school by the time of the wedding, but things happened and now I wont be graduating til the spring.  I knew I wanted 10/10/10 from the beginning so I booked all my major vendors 1.5-2 years in advance.  Now that it’s time to work on little projects, it’s exciting but I don’t feel busy enough.  I feel like an inferior bride because I barely spend any time on the wedding.

Make some time for non-wedding nights.  No talking about weddings allowed!  Eventually your FI and your friends will get sick of hearing about it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ours was a 2 year, 5 month engagement! Believe me, by the last few months I was dying to just have the wedding already! Hang in there – once those last couple of months hit it goes by very very fast. We’ve already been married a month and it totally does not seem like it has been that long at all!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree bloodgo1!!  The past six months have flown by and I know the next 4 months will too.  I’m trying to stay on top of projects so they don’t build up in the last few months.

My sister/MOH is having a baby (possibly tonight) so that has been a welcome distraction when I need it!

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