Post # 1
…If/when you went to try on rings (either engagement rings or wedding bands), did you find that they had rings there in your size to try on? Or were all the stock rings in standard size 6-7-8 range, like all the costume jewelry rings in department stores seem to be?
I wear a size 3.5ish and I’ve honestly not once in my life found a ring I can wear right out of the box/off the shelf/whatever. Granted I’ve never shopped in a proper jewelry store before so I don’t know if it’s different.
I’m going ring shopping with SO in a few weeks and just want to know what to expect. I have a hard time picturing what rings will actually look like on my hand when they’re not in my size so I hope I don’t have to deal with it!
Post # 3
I’m 4.5 and I was able to shop just fine. They didn’t have anything in my size either, but I could gauge the look of the ring easily.
Post # 4
Wow, you have tiny fingers, I thought I was bad. I doubt you will find any rings in a size 3.5. My finger is a 4.5 and I was trying on samples most likely 6’s or 7’s. Its ok though, you are just going to brownse and can hold it on with your thumb to twirl it around. Some higher end jewelers have rings in small sizes with no stone then can place a diamond in the prongs to give you the look. Good Luck!
Post # 5
My ring size is 3.75. All the rings were way to big on me when we looked. I just had to imagine it.
Post # 6
I have size 3.5 finger as well, and all the rings on display were way too big. My suggestion is, when you find a ring that you like, don’t have the jeweler resize it from a 6 or 7 to a 3.5. Even though they say its possible, there are always flaws with it afterwards. Ask them to ORDER the ring in your size, though it’ll take couple of weeks to recieve it, its well worth it in the end.
Post # 7
I have smaller fingers as well and just had to envision it in my size – they were all pretty big!
Post # 8
My ring size is a 4.5-4.75 depending on the day 🙂 I had a lot of luck with the small jeweler in my town. Most of the rings in the store were made by local jewelers and were in funny sizes. The saleswoman was amazed when I slid my engagement ring on and it fit! She almost always has to have them specially made for buyers, but my Fiance, now husband, was able to buy my ring that day. The same thing happened when we went back to the store to try on wedding bands, except this time we had to order the ring because the sample was a little too big.
If you try smaller stores instead of bigger chain stores (Zales, Jared’s, Kays, etc), you might have better luck.
I also recommend trying on costume jewelry or CZ rings in department stores. They have lots of sizes, shapes, and styles, so you’ll get an idea of what looks good on your hands even if the engagement rings you try on look huge.
Post # 9
I sport a 3.25 ring size and for sure every ring ever has been and always will be to big for me. When I went ring shopping, I found it hard to really imagine what the rings would look like on my finger, especially ones that had diamonds/accents/designs down the sides. But you just kind of have to try your best.
I agree with Nextvie, tell them to order you a NEW ring. When they resize it allll the way down from a size 3, you could see a few weird things including non-circular ring (they just cut out a portion and bring the two ends together. They try to round it out, but often times it isn’t round with that big of a jump) and loose prongs, especially on pave settings. So be very careful.
Zales tried to tell me that a standard size 6 ring with micropave ALL down the sides would survive a down-sizing to my 3.25 size without any compromise to the shape or integrity of the setting but also told me they COULDNT order it. I did not purchase.
Post # 10
@Mewcakes: Ditto to basically everything! I’m a 3.25 as well, and we just had to imagine. Thankfully I inherited a ring from my Grandma, who sneakily gave it to Mr.ND one day. His fam sent it through Helzbergs (who SHIPPED IT OUT to a different state and had it sized, thank GOODNESS I didn’t know or I’d have been super super nervous and unhappy). It came out ok but only because it was a very plain band so the sizing down was ok.
Ask (aka politely demand) that your ring be made new, because most won’t size down properly and they may look off, their strength will be compromised, or both. And like Mewcakes said, some stores will try to sell you certain things or say they can’t do something. Know your jewelry/gems/metalwork before you go, ‘Google University’ is better than not having any knowledge beforehand, and if they’re not willing to work with you, go some place else.
Post # 11
I’m a 3.75 and have never been to a store where a ring was in a similar size. So unless you get lucky, you may just have to imagine what it will look like. I agree with the others who recommend that when you order a ring be sure to have it created specifically for your ring size. Sizing most standard rings below around a size 4 may likely compromise the integrity of the ring.
Post # 12
Buh, disappointing to hear that most jewelers don’t carry rings in-store for us tiny-fingered ladies. But I guess they can’t please everyone.
@Nextvie, @Mewcakes, and @NDBee, yep, I definitely will order a ring in my size. I got my mom’s engagement ring resized from 6.5 down to 3.5 and it worked fine because the band is plain but it’s not perfectly circular anymore. Not something I want to risk for a ring I’ll be wearing every day of my life. (I only wear my mom’s on special occasions.)
I’m actually in love with a setting online which can be made in my size so we won’t be buying from a brick and mortar store; we’re just going to try on stone sizes basically to see what looks good on my finger. Which is why I hoped the settings they have in the stores might be in my size or even close, because a stone might look very different in a size 6 setting than it does in a size 3…ah well. I’ll just have to pretend!
Post # 13
I would get the ring ordered in your size if there is bling on the band. Plain bands should be able to be sized down, no problem. I wear a size 3.75 and my ring was sized from a 6 and it’s okay, but I have a solitaire. When I was trying on rings I would put them on my middle finger to get a better idea of the fit.
Post # 14
I’m a 3.5 too! It’s hard, but you just know when it’s the right ring when you try it on. I mean, I can’t explain it. You just KNOW. When you look at it, you have to tell yourself that it will look a little different when it fits you.
Post # 15
i’m also a 3.5 and had no trouble trying on rings and imagining, it was just the actual ordering that was complicated. My ring could not even be ordered in a 3.5 without changing the weight of diamonds although we were not told this initially. First the store sized my ring down from a 6. It turned out egg shaped so we sent it back. So, it was ordered in a 4 and of course was too big. The jewlery store convinced me to get sizing beads put on the ring. Do not do this! it changes the appearance of the ring and is not very comfortable. Finally Fiance and I went back to the jewler and asked what they could do for us, because we were not happy. The store had one of their custom jewlers work on it, and he sized it down for me without changing the diamond weight, so my ring now has an eternity band. So just some advice, when you choose a ring make sure it can definitely be ordered in your size, or that the jewlers have a plan for sizing it.
Post # 16
I’m a size 4.25 and I didn’t go engagement ring shopping with my Fiance but when I bought my wedding band it was a little hard to see how it would look in my size and how flush it would fit. I think shopping for your engagement ring will be fine, you’ll be abkle to easily gauge the size and how it will look on your finger.