Post # 2
rhiannonzdanowicz: I was completely the same way. We weren’t going to have a bridal party, we were going to have a Sunday afternoon dessert reception. I wasn’t really into the whole stressing over planning thing, and we actually wound up eloping. <br /><br />This is your wedding, it needs to reflect you and your FI! If you guys don’t want to have a huge, expensive wedding with tons of little details, then don’t! Pick a few things that are important to you, and focus on those. All that matters is that you marry your best friend, no one will remember those little, itty-bitty details years down the road. They’ll remember sharing that time with you two when you said “I Do” 🙂
Post # 1
While this is not my first marriage, it is my first wedding. (Courthouse wedding prior). And I read threads about people stressing over Bridesmaid dresses, and shoes, and invitations etc etc etc, and I find myself thinking “Eh, I really couldn’t care less”. I did pick my bridesmaids dresses, but I don’t care what shoes they wear, how they wear their hair, what jewelry they accessorize with or don’t. Then I find myself thinking, is that chip inside me broken because it really doesn’t matter to me at all….lol.
Am I too laid back? Should certain opions/thoughts/suggestions/ideas matter to me and they just don’t. Will I regret this later?? Any other Bees out there that are just very laid back.
Did you find something stressed you that caught you off guard because you didn’t think that it would?
Any other Bees really just not care about the minor details?! or am I some freak of nature?
Post # 3
Nope, I was too – I have no regrets, I wasn’t stressed and was just able to truly enjoy our day and feel fully present in it which for me was huge! I internalize stress so it was great not having something else for my brain to focus on and in the end it turned out exactly as we wanted it 🙂
Post # 4
rhiannonzdanowicz: My first marriage I had a wedding wedding and I was pretty laid back. No themes. No real colors of things. My bridesmaids wore pretty, ivory, short dresses I found at Macy’s NOT in the bridal section. Stuff like that. The only thing the kinda freaked me out was there was a power outage from Mexico to Canada on the west coast (where I lived) on that Saturday and I was getting married on Sunday. Power was back on though. Whew! Nah, just take it easy and enjoy!
Post # 5
I feel the same way…I am so done with the clichéd big traditional wedding thing!
We are having a DW and the only thing I was bothered about was the location… after that, I’m not really bothered by the ‘stuff’ that seems to come hand in hand with weddings: my bridesmaids can wear what they want, I’m not bothering with favors people will leave behind our a cake people won’t eat, I don’t care for speeches or spending a small fortune on table decorations or a dress i’ll wear for half a day… even my invites are just $1 vintage postcards lol so I guess I’m not the typical bride on here!
I’d much rather spend the money to get the basics right (venue, food, music etc) than stress over little details people will have forgotten about in a day or two!
Post # 6
I feel the same way. There are just so many minor details that I figure I can’t stress about them all. I picked out the girls’ dresses and told them they could do what they wanted with accessories. They asked how I wanted them to do their hair and looked at me like I was crazy when I said I didn’t care.
Post # 7
rhiannonzdanowicz: Not at all… I loved being the laid back bride (90% of the time!). We didn’t have a bridal party and eloped so that helped!
Post # 9
Ha, I think you are in an eviable position based on all of the angst and stress I see on these boards! As long as laid back doesn’t translate into “putting everything off until the last minute,” you’re just fine 🙂