(Closed) Laid off…but boss still wants to come to wedding?!?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do in this situation?
    Don't send them STDs and then invite the ones you see often closer to the wedding date. : (29 votes)
    38 %
    Suck it up and invite them all. It's only 20 people. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Only invite the ones you really like and see outside of work! : (46 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @ktbrady: I’d so give her the standard line of “we’re trying to keep it small and family oriented blah blah blah.” I’m down for only inviting the coworkers you see socially. And, bonus, since you won’t be in the office, you won’t have to deal with the fall out. Win win, I say. (That sounds really snarky…but please! Laid off! Jobs and weddings are always high emotion. Why do people say things like “Oh, I hope I’m still invited!” It bamboozles me.) Good luck with the job offer! My fingers are crossed for you! 😀

    Post # 4
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I wouldn’t invite him! I like your first option, don’t send a save the date.  Plus, think about it like this – you might want to invite people from your new job so thats more people!

    Post # 5
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would put her on your b-list. don’t send a save the date, and only send an invite if you get some declines. 

    Post # 6
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    For starters, I’m sorry you were laid off but atleast you have a back-up plan. Thats awesome!

    As for the wedding, what a weird predicament. I couldn’t imagine someone who is canning me asking about still being invited to my wedding. I voted for “dont send them the STD’s and invite those you stil see closer to the wedding”. A lot could happen in 9 months. I’m not sending any of my co-workers STD’s just because I want to have the option to not invite them as we get closer to the wedding. As of right now, I plan on inviting them but who knows how I’ll feel about these people in 8 months. 

    Post # 7
    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    yeah I would B-list her. If you have room then fine, but definitely don’t include her in the first round of invites

    Post # 8
    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You could always tell her, because you got laid off, you can’t afford to have more than just family and close friends! I like kitzy’s idea…

    Post # 9
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Oh, that’s hard. I probably would have done the same thing.  I don’t know what I would do.

    Post # 10
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Sounds like she kind of invited herself… I wouldn’t be too worried about not inviting people from your work.  You really won’t be seeing a lot of them anymore now that you’ve been laid off, and your wedding is still quite far away.

    I had someone ask me a similar question.  I just sort of blew it off like you did, but this person is not invited.  I kinda feel that if somebody has to ask if they’re invited, then they probably aren’t invited 🙂

    Post # 11
    3539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    B List for sure… you still have about 6 months to the wedding so by then you may have started your new job… and grown apart from the people you used to work with?


    Post # 12
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I totally think you handled it the right way, I would definitely see where you are at closer to your wedding date and when you send out invites. You may not be talking to anyone from work so there is no need to make that commitment now that you arent working there!

    Post # 15
    27 posts
    • Wedding: October 2011

    few ex-coworkers will you stay in close contact thereafter.   i remember a job I had one yr we had TONS of young women working in the department , we’d go to bars , hang out well that summer I went to 3 weddings. after we all were canned, notta a 1 stayed in contact.   feel no obligations

    Post # 16
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @loveOlove: agreed! even if you do stay in contact – the nature of the realtionship may be different than a regular friend that you see on a weekly basis.

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