Large engagement ring questions..

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@tomb_raider:  Get what you want and what makes you happy. The heck with anyone else’s reactions.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@tomb_raider:  IMO anyone that thinks a non-diamond engagement ring is distasteful is not worth your time. I have a $150 aquamarine ring that gets compliments all the time. Sure, some people ask why no diamond. But who cares? 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’ve had people think my 1.5 ct diamond isn’t a real diamond, so I don’t think it’s improbable that people will assume a 3 ct moissy isn’t a real diamond.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

People can tell the difference. If you can’t throw $20,000 or $30,000 at a semi decent symbol of your love then you just can’t afford it yet. I would most deffinately wait until you can if you prefer the larger stones. I love mine and I can’t imagine how it would feel to have a ring that wasn’t what I dreamed of and loved. Plus, you could always compromise on a certain aspect, like maybe a j-k color instead of an E-F, and Si1 instead of VVsi1…I’m not anti sapphires or rubies or anything else, I’m just pro diamond engagement rings that are exactly the look that you want. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@tomb_raider:  Well I think it is a symbol of your love, your commitment, your relationship…its much deeper then just that, but it’s very symbolic in my eyes atleast. & my fiance was very wasteful when it came to the ring…he did pay for a name, when the exact same thing could’ve cost less then half from blue nile, or even from a regular jeweler, and not a guy with a pouch in an office turned vault, to buy a name brand rock because it was better, and the guy was from the same country as my fiance. To this day it irks me, so I can understand that, but you do not have to get a top quality diamond. I just prefer diamonds, and I can tell the difference, (in person, not always in pictures). 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Moissanite is a lovely gemstone and sensible frugality is always a smart idea. That being said, if your heart is set on a diamond get a diamond.

And if you do go with moissanite, I suggest an enhanced stone for the larger carat sizes. Mine looks gorgeous and white at 1ct, but it’s my understanding larger stones show more color and if you’re trying to pass it off as a diamond than it might be important to you.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Most people won’t care enough about your ring to try to guess what it is. You can find posts with stories about people being dicks when they find out a ring isn’t a diamond, but I don’t think that happens to most people. But if you’re always going to feel stressed over the chance someone could “call you out” or react negatively, moissanite probably won’t make you happy. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

People are going to think what they think about your ring. It’s up to you whether you divulge your stone is not a diamond. If you think you will be ashamed to answer truthfully if someone askes if its a real diamond I would pass on the moissy. I’d hate to be self-conscious of my own ring.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

People will think a big ring is too big. People will think a small ring is too small. People will hate on moissy for not being a “real diamond”.People will hate on diamonds for being unethical. People will hate on gemstones for breaking the white stone norm. If you pick a ring to please other people, you can never win! You have to get something that you and your guy can look at and love and be proud of, no matter what others think

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