Post # 1
I plan on getting a moissy ring since they’re so affordable and I have my eye on a beautiful two carat solitaire. I like larger rings and I have a big personality so it fits. The problem that I’m running into is that we’re very young (both 20) and we live in the midwest where that size stone isn’t all that common. I’m afriad that people are going to look at it and immediately start judging me. Have any of you ladies exerienced anything like that and would it stop you from getting the ring that you wanted?
Post # 2
Don’t let what they think stop you, get what you want! It isn’t any of their business what ring you get, what size, what stone, what shape, etc., and if they say anything to you they are being rude.
Post # 3
You will probably be judged, but just get what you like!
Post # 4
At the end if the day it doesn’t matter what others think. If you want it, get it. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Post # 5
<br />militarywifetobee: Just weigh your options. I think you are being realistic that a few people will probably be a bit judgey or speculative. Would you prefer to get your dream ring and put up with a few people’s questions/remarks? Or would you rather keep a low profile?
I think it’s also worth considering if you plan on telling people it’s a moissy, since you may be asked by some. If you are fine with telling people all about it, then that’s probably a mark in favor of the big ring. If you didn’t intend to tell people about it it could lead to some awkward situations since I would think you’d be a little more likely than others to be asked what it costs/if it’s a diamond.
I’m a low profile kind of girl so I kept my moissy size under the radar (1 ct, which still seems huge to me!). But I didn’t have any desire to have a big ring, so it was a natural choice for me.
Post # 6
I live in the midwest and I know lots of women who have some larger rings. I have a friend from nursing school that had a 3 carat diamond, it was incredibly large and I always would ask her if she was afraid to bump it and lose it. I’m 21 and my diamond is just under a carat but it has a beautiful halo and detailing and looks much larger. I get comments all the time like, “HOLY SH*T I’m amazed you can hold your hand up with that rock weighing it down!” I just smile and say “Thanks I think it’s amazing too :)”
No one has to know how much you spend, a beautiful ring is a beautiful ring and if you and your FI love it, that’s what matters.
Post # 7
cbgg: I do plan on telling people that it is a moissy. I don’t really think I’m low profile, I guess I never really think about it that much, I’m just me
crisy003: Wow I’ve never seen one that large in person! Must have been beautiful!
Thanks for the advice and encouragement ladies!
Post # 8
My advice is to get what you love. The judgement game is a no win situation. People who judge ring size would do so if your ring was too big or too little. I have a center stone of a little over a carat with a halo that makes it look bigger. People always comment on how big my ring is (I live on the Gulf Coast), but I just smile and say ” he did a good job”. Get whatever you want and don’t worry about what others think.
Post # 9
I totally second the PPs here. I have large hands/fingers and have a 7.5mm (1.5ct equiv) moissy w/ a petite diamond halo but I still look at it and wonder if I went too blingy 😛 It’s perfectly proportioned to my hand but wowza, out of our price range if that center stone was a diamond.
Who cares. Get the ring you love. Moissy is a gorgeous affordable forever stone so get your dream setting and rock it 🙂
Post # 10
militarywifetobee: I think you would run into problems if you were going to try and pass it off as a diamond. Since you plan on telling people it’s moissy, I say go for it! Moissy is an awesome stone, and more people should know about it. I live in the midwest too. I am betting we are from the same kind of area, because I rarely see anything over a carat here. I bet you are definitely going to get second glances.
Post # 11
People are going to judge you as long as you live. You can let it get to you or you can blow it off. I have never let anyone else’s judgement stand in the way of something I really wanted. Of course I didn’t want something illegal so that helped lol.
Post # 12
I would probably assume that it wasn’t a diamond, but wouldn’t say anything.
Post # 13
I think you should get whatever you want. I live in Manhattan where 2 carat rings are very common and not considered all that large. However, I want a small (.25 carat) vintage ring that is well under 1k, it’s just more my style! I’m getting it regardless of what others think, BUT, I won’t be surprised if people make assumptions about me because of it. Maybe they’ll think I don’t have money, etc. That’s fine with me!
So, I think you should get the ring of your dreams, but just know that there will be people who assume that it means you are wealthy, or others who may judge that it’s a moissy. At the end of the day it’s what you want, but be realistic that other people will have judgments. It might keep you sane to know that some people will judge no matter what. They would judge you if you had a 5 carat perfect diamond, they would judge if you had a ruby, they would judge if you had a teeny tiny diamond, and they will judge a 2 carat moissy. Just imagine how boring their lives are if they spend their lives getting riled over other people’s belongings. Best to you and congrats!
Post # 14
You’ll get judged no matter the ring size (I do) get what you like.
Post # 15
I have a 3ctw ring with a 2ct moissanitr center and I only feel judged in the fact that people think we have a lot of money. I get a lot of people shocked by my ring, I just thank the complimented and drive one. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. It won’t matter later on down the line anyway.