Post # 1
We have run into a dilemma at our wedding location. We’re doing the reception at a camp that has a chapel. Problem is.. the chapel seats 270 comfortably.. and we were planning on inviting over 300 people.
So how do I decide who gets invited to the ceremony/reception and who gets invited to invited to the reception only.
I know the etiquette is all out-of-town guests are invited to both.. but neither of us is from Tulsa so there are a lot of people coming from other places, including both our families.
And while we’re on the topic how do you deal with a mother who wants to invite your whole small town..
Any advice is appreciated:)
Post # 3
Well my first guess, is that if you are inviting 300 people, and the church holds 270, you’ll be fine. You will be getting some number of declines. And if most of these folks are from OOT, that number could be higher. Have you sat down to think about who is likely to decline? (Elderly relatives, sick relatives, folks who can’t afford the travel, or just plain don’t come to many family weddings).
Also, it seats 270 comfortably, so what’s fire code? Seriously, a few people are probably not going to mind standing. Is the ceremony long? If so, you might find a few guests skip the ceremony and go to only the reception anyway.
I don’t think you have much to worry about. IMO.
Post # 4
i agree with tanya – if you’re inviting 300 it’s pretty likely you’ll only get 270. i also agree with checking out the fire code!!
Post # 5
oh and i really think etiquette would say everyone needs to be invited to both parts… sorry 🙁
Post # 6
Actually I met with our wedding planner and our number has increased to 375. Tanya, fire code is 270.. and we have a short ceremony. We’re thinking about giving some of our young friends the “out” by saying they can join us at the reception. Most of them just care about that anyway, right?
As for etiquette, I checked with our stationary lady and our wedding planner and they both said it was perfectly acceptable to invite to reception only..
Now.. on to dealing with my mom’s guest list.. OMG! lol
Post # 7
Oh I forgot to mention we would be sending out different invites to people depending on if they are inviting to both or just the reception..
Post # 8
Are the wedding and reception on the same grounds (ie. Camp Loughridge)? If that’s the case, or if both locations have Wi-Fi, you could live stream the wedding via video from the wedding location to the reception hall – and invite select members of your guest list to view the wedding from the reception location. Probably over-complicating things, but it’s an idea. 🙂