Post # 1
I am in a pickle… not literally, but I am in a very difficult situation.
Fi and I have send out our Save-the-Dates back in late november and early December, We delivered them by hand to everyone locally and mailed it to anyone who lived more then 45 minutes away… We sent our our Email invitations to our destination wedding in the middle of January stating that we were obviously sorry for the short notice but that for the resort we had chosen… we recieved a special rate till Feb 6… we had a decent enough amount of reservations by then that transat extended our rate (I dont have a clue when this rate is over but we still have it)… so far we have 45 guests booked out of 125 we invited, and yes, I do know that this is actually pretty good, but the fact is is that we havent even heard a peep from most of the remaining guests (which actually really pisses me off)… we are still waiting for anywhere between 5-15 guests (family) who say that they’re booking… to actually commit and book also.
Now its 9 months till the wedding and November and December are pretty much complete write offs for Fi and I because we are in sales and are ridiculously busy then…. so that 9 months cuts down to 7 for planning really fast. I have an appointment to meet with our wedding planner to discuss the next phase of our planning and to start ordering still to fill our welcome bags and favors… and well… i’m not really sure how to put this to our 60-some guests who havent even acknowledged that we even sent them an invite that we will be starting this next phase and therefor, anybody who hasnt booked by whatever date (coming up soon… and as rude as this sounds) will still be able to join us at the resort for the week, but essentially will not be recieving stuff like favors or welcome bags, etc…
What is a light, nice, non-pushy way to send out a final E-mail?
Thank you so much
Post # 3
I would just call everyone who hasn’t responded yet.
To be honest, I know this is a Destination Wedding, but some people can’t plan that far ahead. That’s why most wedding invites go out 8 weeks prior. Even for DWs. You sent out Save the Dates, so people have the date on their calendars, but may not be ready to decide if they can go.
I would revisit this issue a month before your busy season starts. Get as much done now as you can, because no matter what you will need to do last minute stuff during your busy season – that’s just how wedding planning works.
Post # 4
You can’t be upset with people for not knowing what their commitments, work schedules, and finances will be several months down the line.
They are well within the guidelines of etiquette, and unfortunately you are the one who stepped outside of it.
It would be nice for all brides to know months ahead of time exactly how many guests are coming, to have months to prepare favours, do seating charts etc. But polite hosting requires you to hold off, and send out invites 6-8 weeks ahead of time.
If I got an email invite >12 months ahead of the date of the function, I would probably think a more formal invitation was to follow.
Also, the fact that the hotel comps you if more guests sign up, isn’t really the guests issue. And I am not sure you should have even mentioned it.
Post # 5
@futuremrsfitz18: Thank you for your response, however, these things NEED to be done before our busy season. no Ifs ands or buts… and Fi says his family probably wont book untill a week before the wedding. this is not fair to us who have to plan this… nor is it convienient.
@andielovesj: I’m offended that you would assume I would mention to my guests about any promotions I would recieve based on amount of guests booking, I did not state that in my original post.
I’m sorry if any ladies dont agree with the way we’ve decided to do our booking, however, it is what it is and I need a nice way to send a final reminder.
Post # 6
Maybe your guests don’t have the money now, but will 9 months from now. While what you are explaining is more convenient for you, for your guests it is really unreasonable.
Post # 7
At the request of the OP this thread is closed.