(Closed) Last minute changes to the guest list…Grrr!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think your situation speaks to the general poor etiquette that many people, even those we love, show during the wedding-planning process.  It seems easy enough–receive the invitation, check your calendar, mail back rsvp, show up.  But alas, such a simple process is horribly complicated when you throw real people in the middle of it.  I’m sorry, I know it’s frustrating. 😛

Post # 4
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My inlaws also added people last minute. My husband told them that was fine, but as we already did the seating chart and escort cards (which I spent a long time pinning to a cork board in alphabetical order), they would have to be the ones to figure out where to sit and how to tell them. They didn’t end up coming (due to health reasons).

Post # 6
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

this situation is stressing me out.  We need to give final numbers to our caterer on Tuesday and I’m not really sure how to say…10 people still can’t commit but they’ll decide last minute.   what is WRONG with people!!

Post # 7
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1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

These details often work themselves out on the day of. People showup, people dont come. People don’t sit where they are assigned, people switch. I would just be thankful that they told you in advance, I would rather some tell me before so I have the possibility of recouping the catering cost than of them simpling no showing.

If someone can’t commit 10 days before I would let them know they are no longer invited. If you can’t be curious and RSVP and are still unsure about a life changing event then I really do want you there.

Another thing to consider is sending someone a bill for them no showing. 🙂 that would be toally rude and funny. .. maybe I will including that on my RSVP’s hahaa

Post # 8
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry you are going through this.  I really hope I dont have to!  I wish I could give you words of encouragement- but Ive not had to deal with it yet… Good luck!  I hope you can at least take the day before your wedding mentally off- and just let go to enjoy the build up, take a deep breath and remember how excited you are to be getting married!  Hope all goes well and CONGRATS!!! You’re getting married in 6 days!!! That is awesome!!!!

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