- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My mom told us she was giving us $XX money towards our wedding reception. FI and I wnted to elope- but my dad (parent’s are divorced)- wasn’t a huge fan, so we didn’t.
My mom has given us $1100 less than what she said she would so far. Keep in mind- I do not EXPECT that people give us money, but after MANY conversations, my mom knows that the wedding we are having (with this many guests) would have happened without her contribution. It’s not that we literally don’t have the money, it’s that I am responsible and don’t want to wake up the morning after the wedding with not enough money for a cup of coffee!!
So we decided we def wanted chair covers. We looked at renting- and thanks to a Bee, ended up buying them for twice as much LESS than renting!! They did need to be either ironed or steamed before use.
Talked to my mom yesterday- told her I’d be more than happy to iattempy ironing them to save on $. She said she wanted to take them to the cleaners and inquire about getting them steamed, and if it was reasonable, she’d just do that.
So my stepdad- *trying* to be helpful, takes 2 of them to the cleaner for a “trial” run to see how they turn out. The guy says they’ll be $4/each to steam. My stepdad goes home + brings ALL of them to the cleaners to get steamed. Ummmmmmm that completely defeated the purpose of buying them- we should have just rented them.
My mom and stepdad keep thier finances entirely separate- my mom is pissed becaause she didn’t want to spend $4/piece (understandably) and I’m sure she won’t attempt to have my stepdad pay (their marriage is a bit rocky right now).
So she calls me. And while she doesn’t straight up ask for the money, she is basically giving me a guilt trip- like this is my fault. I am the one who suggested that I iron them (I am ironing the chair sashes!)
My wedding is Saturday, this is day #2 sick in bed. I had a laid back carefree attitude a few days ago, but now getting sick isn’t helping much. Because my mom is still $1100 short on her part of the bargain (but she just paid to get new tires on her new car a day ago- because she wants snow tires and it’s not snowing yet!!!!) I have had to come up with that money. And now she’s turning to me to pay for this! Thanks for adrenaline rush, mom. This is probaby the best I’ve felt in a 24 hours– but seriously!!
I don’t know what the point of this is- just to vent I think. I’m super frustrated with my mom (as I have been a large part of this wedding planning)-
thankfully my dad called me this morning (I missed his call because I was sleeping)- just to check in, see how I am, see if I am getting excited and to tell me he’s looking forward to this weekend. Which was really encouraging since I am currently not on awesome terms with my stepmom.
Thanks for listening ~~ love, the sick bride