(Closed) Last Minute Guest Drop Outs?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a couple people cancel, but then we had a couple people ask to bring guests or suddenly say they were coming, so it really evened out. Are you having a plated meal with seat assignments, or a buffet? If a buffet, I think it’s ok to tell them a person or two less, just because they generally make 10% more food than they think will be necessary. When is your last date to give them a final count before the wedding?

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m not talking from experience here but I think this would be a little foolish … yes, you may have some guests not make it but you also might have some guests who make it after all! And what if everyone does come and then you are a few meals short? I can understand budgeting a little less for cake or programs maybe even favors but the actual meal? If it is sit-down, give the  caterer an accurate number. My only exception would be buffet/stations.

Post # 5
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, I would say you can go less for buffet, but definitely not for a plated dinner. What if you did an online RSVP so that people could change their RSVP closer to the RSVP deadline (I know some people send out theirs immediately, but then plans change)?

Good luck!

Post # 6
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Our wedding is next saturday and so far in the past week I have had 8 people change there rsvp from "no" to "yes".  I also had 2 people cancel, so I had to make some last minute ajustments to the final count and seating arrangement.  

Luckily the final payment and count isn’t due until this tuesday, so I have a few days to work it all out.  I doubt any more changes will happen in the next 7 days.  Who knows maybe we will get a "no show" but if we do, oh well… nothing we can do about it..  

Post # 8
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I’m not married yet (obvs) but a couple of my friends had ppl show up that didn’t RSVP… I’m keeping the number the same just in case that happens.

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

when my friend got married about 18months ago, we were all dressed up and getting in the cars for the church when the phone rang and someone was cancelling (2 spots)!!!

Post # 10
29 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

Juliemd414Omigosh… 8 people changed their RSVP from no to yes? Wow…I hadn’t even thought of people changing from a no to a yes…especially not 8!

Post # 11
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We were told by friends, family and our venue that a lot of times even when you have last minute cancellations/no shows, you may also have people that never RSVPed, or that RSVPed "no" show up!

We had 4 no-shows and 3 extras so it was mostly a wash.

Post # 12
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We actually have 7 people who cannot give a solid RSVPs for various (valid) reasons…it sucks but what can we do?  We might just end up with empty chairs.

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