Post # 1
FH and I are on a TIGHT budget (as I have mentioned before) and really had to limit our guest list. FH throughout this has actually added for guests along the way because he felt “bad” after running into them somewhere.
At this point we’ve had a few people say they can’t come after all. I would really, really like to invite to women from my work now. Here’s the deal though: I feel like an ass doing it and they both have partners, but we really can’t afford for their partners to come. We’re having a daytime wedding and they both live in town, so their would be no significant travel.
Is there any way that I can thoughtfully and tactfully invite these women (just speaking to them face-to-face) 2 weeks before the wedding? Oh, and ask that they come alone?
I know, I know….I cringe thinking of it and can’t help but feel like an ass. Should I invite them or just let it go at this point?
Post # 3
Eh, I think you could get away with asking them face to face if they’re both nice, understanding people, but I don’t think you can do it without inviting their partners too. sorry.
Post # 4
You would be breaking 2 rules to invite them. 1. B listing them, 2. not inviting partners.
Personally, I would prefer not being invited, then being invited under these constraints. Remember that your wedding is (naturally) most important to you. Others will not share the same level of enthusiasm.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t – it’s too late to invite them – 2 weeks is short notice. Plus asking them to come alone isn’t a good idea. So I’d just let it go, at this point they know they weren’t invited so why bring it up now and put a restriction on it.
If you have space for more guests and want to add people perhaps there was another guest who’s already attending who’d like to “bring a friend” or a new boy/girlfriend?
Post # 6
I wouldn’t especially since you can’t invite their partners.
Post # 7
I would say let it go at this point. As a guest, I would think it is a little weird if someone invited me two weeks before their wedding and probably wouldn’t go.
Post # 8
I am going to go against the “grain” and I am sure etiquette and say go for it! While I am not sure about the two weeks out/face to face part, I say at least a single invitation would be ok. I work in an enviornment with 20 other women and we are all very close, but there was NO WAY I could add 40 people to my guest list. I invited them all as a single invite (all of them are married or in serious committed relationships) and they were all thrilled. They understood budget constraints and actually said they would have a better time witout their husbands since the husbands would not know anyone. As far as inviting them face to face, only you know how they will react. If they would be thrilled to attend your special day rather than be offended in the way you invited, then do it! It is your day!! 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 9
Yes to “face-to-face” invite, but no to singles. I’m a first-time bride at age 40 and I have been invited as a single to weddings before (because I wasn’t married) and I just think that’s rude. The way I see it, everyone should be able to bring a date. I know your situation is different, but I still feel it’s impolite to invite a guest but not allow a date/partner. Of course, it’s your wedding so it’s your decision. Good luck!
Post # 10
I would invite them face to face and let them know the deal. If they want to be there they wont mind that they were invited later. They are coworkers so im sure they understand that you had to invite family first. And if the coworkers go together they can survive an evening without their partners. The worst they could do is decline.
Post # 11
If you are close to them, I would definitely invite them face to face. I would also tell them due to yur budget constraint, they will have to come as a single. All they can say is “No”.
I have asked all of my gf to come as single ladies because of my budget. All have said “Yes” cause I’m that last of the group to get married @ 41. I have attended many weddings as a single gal cause the brides explained the situation. Considering I knew everyone there as well as the other “single” guests, I have always enjoyed myself. Go ahead and invite them.