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    Yumi87    June 19, 2010   WA

    It seems like my parents, sister, and FI are 'last minute' people. They wait to the last minute to get things done. Some people work great under pressure - but not me. My MOH has not found her dress yet (it's a small wedding and she can pick any kind of yellow dress)- and I am not being picky, but we are cutting it close here (four weeks!). My dad just told me he would like a wedding cake and he will pay for it. It is wonderful of my dad to do this (thanks, Pop!), but why did he tell me this four weeks before our destination wedding?! We had already decided three months ago not to do any cake. Now I will need to order one without tasting it - which is no problem. FI and I have already picked out great flavor combinations and I am grateful for my dad's contribution. I guess It's just that I am not a last minute person. I like to get things done as early as possible and when I don't I get stressed out. 

    Are you bees last minute people or early birds? What is it like for a last minute person to work with an early bird? Especially, when planning a wedding! 

     
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    Goldilocks1107    September 2010   Madison, WI

    I'm an early bird. And I had to explain very carefully to FH that he needs to go along with it and not stress me out because the more I get done up front, the calmer I'll be closer to the wedding (and the less stressed HE'LL be!).

     
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    texasmeredith      

    I am an early bird!  FI is not.  At first he thought I was crazy for trying to get things taken care of early.  Now he is starting to see the wisdom of my ways.  I do not want to be a stress ball the week of my wedding.  I want to enjoy everything!

     
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    denverbirdlet    September 18, 2010   Denver, getting married in Madison, WI

    early bird here.  luckily my FI understands that to just let me go crazy with the planning far in advance will save my (and consequently his) sanity down the road when we reach "crunch time."  It's great that your dad wants to contribute a cake and that you've got involved family and friends, but man!  those last-minute changes would drive me nutso!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    im a lister - so not exactly early bird but i have a schedule for everything - so if its not on schedule, i freak out LOL so i feel you :)

     
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    blondeeebuckeye    February 2011   Austin, TX

    i'm an early bird and a big time list maker. my parents on the other hand, are last minute. and even sometimes late. it's already created a bit of conflict, and i suspect we will be paying late fees on some things.

     
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    shaydenise    October 30, 2010  

    Ahh that would drive me nuts...  I'm dealing with family wanting to add people after the save the dates have gone out and it's frustrating enough.

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    I totally agree! When we still hadn't gotten back half of our RSVPs by the due date, I stomped around a little to my FI and said "Why can't these people get organized like me??" :p

    Seriously though, it sounds like you are taking it in stride.

     
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    Yumi87    June 19, 2010   WA

    I knew many bees were early birds! I always wanted to be a list maker, but i always end up losing my lists! 

     
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    ldyparadox99    September 10, 2010   Netherlands

    For wedding stuff, I'm an early bird! It killed me that I couldn't start booking anything when we set our wedding date, a year and a half before our wedding.  Over here you can't start the marriage process with the city hall (it's kind of like our marriage licenses in the US but not..) until a year before your date.  That means you can't book a ceremony location a year before the date either.

    Heck...I can't even do flowers until August! Nobody wants to talk to me until 3-4 weeks before the wedding! It's killing me! LOL

    But, I have most everything booked and invites are going out this coming week...I'm sooo ahead of the game that the fiance thinks I'm a little neurotic.

     
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    OfficeBride    2010  

    I'm definitely one of those people that works well under pressure, but suprisingly for the wedding, I've been really on top of things and trying to get things done early.  I think it's mostly because I'm excited!

     
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    FMILady    June 6, 2010   Texas

    I like to get big things done early... little things can wait until right before, just for fun.  Like, I still need to put ribbon on the groomsmen's gifts, but I might do that in Waco so they don't get crushed in packing.  Life is very stress free right now, because the major things on our end were handled months ago.

     
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    snow      

    Yes yes yes. I am an early bird. Mr. Snow is as last minute as they come (for example, we're getting married in less than 9 days and the men just got their suits this week. And he still hasn't ordered the guys' shoes...He plans to overnight them monday *sigh*). 

    We've butted heads quite a few times b/c he has made all the paper goods and stressed me to no end with deadlines. I've basically started adding two weeks to his supposed deadlines for stuff, and that's usually on target.

    He gets it honestly. Last week, his father realized he hadn't invited like 10 important people (long story...) and we had to bump up our guest list right before the final deadline. 

    I should only have have three ulcers by the end of next week. 

     

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