Post # 1
2 people cancelled to my shower last minute, it is on Saturday, after RSVPing yes.
Their seats were already paid for $40 something each… and there is no refund from the venue. My Fiance said I should invite other friends last minute.
I emailed 2 friends, explaining what happened and asking them to come, adding there is no need to bring a gift since the seats are paid for and would otherwise go to waste. Would you be offended that you were not originally invited? Do you think this is rude?
Post # 3
I would wonder why I’m not invited in the first place. If I really meant something to you, then you would’ve invited me regardless of money. But at the same time, I would want to have fun and go to the shower. I would debate on whether to bring a gift, and probably opt no, but I wouldn’t be extremely angry. It just depends on the relationship I have with you.
Post # 4
I invited a friend last minute to my wedding because someone cancelled. She was not someone I was super close to (she’s actually a friend’s roommate), but she knew a lot of people at the wedding. At first I felt bad, but her response put me at ease—“free booze and dinner? count me in!”
However, I worry that it’s a little different for a shower. Are you planning on inviting these women to the wedding? If so, why didn’t you invite them to the shower? I also wonder why you are getting involved in the inviting for your shower; perhaps whoever is hosting it (your MOH? mom?) has a friend who would appreciate the free meal.
Post # 5
i would definitely be offended. it might be different it if was a wedding, but people don’t typically jump at the chance to go to bridal showers
Post # 6
Are these two people invited to the wedding? If they are not, do not invite them to the shower.
Post # 7
I would never be upset about not being invited to someone’s shower. I personally think they are a HUGE pain in the butt, a full day commitment for an activity that is only fun for one person (the bride) and a strain financially since you are now basically buying two wedding presents isntead of one. What makes me upset is when I am invited to someones shower but NOT the bachelorette party. That is such a slap in the face, the bride is basically telling me that I’m only worth my extra gift but when it came down to factoring me in to the dinner/drinks/fun portion that was too exclusive to include me.
Post # 7
How close are you to these guests? Are they invited to the wedding? And is the shower relatively intimate otherwise?
I guess I wouldn’t mind so much because you told them no gifts. That being said, I would still feel obligated to get you a gift because it’s super awkward to go to a shower without one.
Post # 8
I could understand being offended, since the purpose of a shower is to bring gifts and it’s not considered polite to show up without one! I was invited to a wedding at the last minute because of cancellations and the $100 a plate cost, and I thought it was tacky to ask me as a last resort (not to mention, who doesn’t invite close family members to their large, lavish, in-town wedding? and then attends my wedding with no gift…tacky)
Post # 9
@moderndaisy: I never thought about this. If I were a friend of the bride I would think it strange not to be invited to the brette party. That is, unless the party was super small and limited to bridal party members.
Post # 10
I would do it, but invite someone I knew what easy going.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t be offended, but I also probably wouldn’t go. I hate showers and the last minute invite would be a great reason to decline.
Post # 12
I absolutely HATE last minute invitations. I would not attend if I got a last minute invite even though it’s a free meal and no gift is expected (I’d still feel obligated to bring one.) I’d wonder why I wasn’t “good enough” to be invited in the first place.
Sorry that’s not meant to be rude to you, it’s just what I would do if I got an invite from someone, which I have had to do before.
Post # 13
I’m not sure if I would be offended but I wouldn’t go. I would feel compelled to buy a present because who wants to be that girl that didn’t bring a gift and it would irritate me that I felt I was only there so the host didn’t have to eat the cost of something. I would understand more if it were a last second wedding invite but this is a shower where the purpose is to give the bride a present.
Post # 14
I would probably not accept the invite.