Post # 1
I’m worried that everyone will show up late and miss the ceremony.
I’m worried that I’m going to look like an overdone, made up clown, or at least feel like I do.
I’m worried my parents are going to have completely inappropriate emotional outbursts and make offensive comments to my guests, my husband, and myself.
I’m worried that costs will somehow become an issue at the last minute and we won’t be able to handle it.
I’m worried that the DIY projects and last minute printing won’t get done or done well.
I’m worried that my dress will get filthy before the ceremony when we take photos.
I’m worried I’ll forget to bring something with me that we need for the wedding when we fly out Saturday morning.
I’m worried that the meals will be too heavy.
I’m worried that my health issues will flare up and cause issues for me despite the medication and I’ll spend all the time hiding in the bathroom.
I’m worried that the vendors will be too pushy and I won’t get what I want (hair & makeup) or that I simply won’t get along with them (photography).
I’m worried that I won’t have anything to wear for outside photos for a coat or that my boots will look stupid with my dress and my smile won’t make up for it.
I’m sure there’s more! There’s some honesty for ya |:
Post # 3
First, let me say I love you date. It is my brithday!
Secondly, I am worried about most of those things, too. I think it is normal to be worried about anything and everything before the big day.
Most of the posts on here say that no matter how much worrying was done, the wedding turned out fabulous. I am sure yours will be the same.
Post # 4
none of those things are going to happen. You are going to be gorgeous and feeling great. Your family is going to behave wonderfully.
You won’t forget anything because you’re going to have a list of things to take with you.
Post # 5
Hahaha take a deeeeppp breath! Were all so worried too! If its not hair issues, its dress issues. From one worry to the next. BUT IT WILL BE FINE, have faith! And as long as your aware of some of your worries, now you can try to find ways to fix them or little back up plans for the ” What ifs” Atleast thst what I do really. Youll be fine, youll be gorgoues! Your guests WILL show up on time and the Vendors wll give you what you want cuz your the bride! 🙂
Post # 6
@GroovyHippieChick: Your comment was so reassuring! I did feel gorgeous and great. But hahaha… my family most certainly did NOT behave wonderfully! My father growled at the groom before the ceremony. It scared the shit out of him. He was refusing to take his seat. We still have no clue what that was about. My mother added a impromptu preamble to her speech when we specifically instructed all people giving speeches that they had to be vetted by us first to make sure the content was appropriate. My father got really pissy about my mother’s speech and spent the whole father/daughter dance talking my ear off in a very uncomfortable way. His talking points ran the range of made up stories intended to get a rise out of me, blatant racism, and trying to pit me against my sister. My brother got really upset at feeling his wife was not included in our wedding, and rather than talking to us about it while she was still there and could have done something about it? She came up to our table to tell my husband that they were not brother and sister, but rather “your BIL’s wife” and “my husband’s BIL” so “not to worry”! She then turned to me and said “your name is now Mrs. Husband’sFirstName Husband’sLastName NOT Mrs. MyFirstName MyNewLastName” as the wedding officiant announced me. She took off immediately after her free dinner without saying goodbye and my brother got in a good line before he left about “how hurt he was” by our excluding her. No idea what they felt we were excluding her from other than some posed photos they never asked us for.
Luckily, everyone was right to tell me not to worry! None of it mattered. I just smiled through it all and then the painful moments were over. You wish that people would be able to pull it together just for one day but if they can’t? Doesn’t honestly matter.
@Mrsgurzakovic: The guests did turn up on time! It was great! We did put the ring warming ceremony before the processional, gave guests an extra 10-15 mins to filter in without interrupting anything.
@JessisGirl: Happy belated!! Hope your day goes fabulously too 😀 No worries! No problems!
Post # 7
“My father growled at the groom before the ceremony. It scared the shit out of him. “
Ohhh my god!!! This is something my dad would do thinking he was being HIIIIIIILARIOUS. But its so not!
Post # 8
@mandypop: Yeah!! Oh my god is right! FOB would not talk to anyone, just stood there growling really loudly. Fiance tried to talk to him multiple times and he would not budge or speak. Fiance came back to find me in the back room and let me know about the problem. I sent out a “make dad sit down quietly” task force, but apparently by the time they got there the situation had resolved itself.