- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I have been married for almost 5 months now. My husband and I hyphenated our names, but this nagging persistent thought in the back of my head that we should combine our names into one keeps coming to me. So I was reading some boards, and I keep comming across this reason as to why a woman would take a name for her husband.
“This may be oldfashioned…but it’s supposed to be an honor when the person you love takes your name, and a sign of welcome to that person, into your family.”
And then I think to myself. Well if the reason a woman takes a man’s name is because she is joining his family and loves him, and is welcoming of his family, why shouldn’t he take her name as a sign that he loves her, and is welcoming of her family?
This is originally why I think Hyphenated names are great. I do like my husband and I hyphenating our name. I hate our credit card company with their 23 character limit which causes them to leave it as it was before we got married in his former name. So in a way I really want our new name to refelct on the credit card.
I thought really wanted to choose a new name, at the beginning of the alphabet for both of us, and resurrect an old family name. I just am highly amused at it. Because any way I see it, I just don’t think its a very good reason to go about tradition, when the tradition has downgraded one part of the world.
I think the surname law should be this:
All persons are allowed to choose a new name, through a court name change process upon marriage, or at the age of adulthood. The new name shall not be used for fradulent purposes and all persons who use their name change for fradulent purposes will be punished according to the law.
Simple as that
And if you want to follow tradition, the best reason I have ever heard for a woman taking a man’s surname was simply “I think his is cooler then mine”. But when I hear “Well I don’t like his last name, but I’m taking it anyway becasue he asked me too” I think you should seriously consider talking to your fiance.
Yeah this is a slight rant, and I don’t think every one would agree with me. I don’t even expect it. I just expect us to have a better reason then “It’s tradition” when we do something.