Post # 1
Hi bees! My FH and I are debating about dates… I have the opportunity to put something fabulous together for Dec 28th, which is a Friday, at a venue that fits all of our requirements… but he is concerned that people won’t want to come if they’d been travelling to see family over Christmas. I feel like if people don’t want to go or can’t, then it is what it is. There will always be times when people can’t come. Besides, we’re looking at inviting around 200 ppl… as much as I’d like everyone to be there, I’m sure there will be enough guests!
Since I’m in a Master’s program, December works well b/c I’d have a month off before the wedding and a week off after. The next possible date would be in late June after I graduate… I’d really rather not wait that long, but am willing to.
Could I have your opinions on the late-December date? Perhaps I am just being unreasonable. (I’ll also add that he was the one to initially suggest December pre-engagement, and has since changed his mind.)
Post # 3
Well I got married in December so I’m biased. :p Our date was 2 weeks after Thanksgiving and 2 weeks before Christmas, so right smack dab in the middle of the holidays and we still had a great turnout. Like you said, there will always be times that don’t work for people. I’ve gone to new years eve weddings and other major holiday weddings because I wanted to be a part of their day. It wasn’t always super convenient, but in the end it didn’t really matter!
Post # 4
Encore Bride here…
Hubby-2-B and I are to be married Christmas Eve as part of an Elopement / Destination Wedding.
We distinctly picked the date because we want to be alone… having both done big Weddings previously.
Knowingly we picked Christmas because most people will have plans to spend the Holidays with THEIR Families.
I’ve had GFs who married between Christmas & New Years, and certainly some folks made it, while others were still out of town etc.
On a positive note, their Wedding Pics were stunning because of all the decorations that show up in them (Church was filled with Flowers… Red Poinsettas, White Carnations and Evergreen Boughs / Wreaths etc, and the Bride & Groom didn’t have to pay for them)
It is what it is IMO… for us there are advantages like yourselves, means we can sneak in some more time off for a Honeymoon.
Post # 5
I agree with your Fiance. There is no way I’d be able to make it to a wedding on that date, unless it was for a family member in my home state since I’d be home for the holidays. I think it depends on whether your friends/family travel out of state for the holidays or not. Plus, if you have people coming in from out of state, you should definitely take weather into account. I had plans a few years ago to fly to visit my boyfriend’s family right after christmas and we had a blizzard and it was literally impossible for me to travel. However, as long as you can accept that these things might happen and you are ok with it, go for December if thats what you want.
Post # 6
@misspeanut: Thanks for the quick reply! Yes, I’m really hoping he’ll get on board with it… winter weddings are so beautiful!
Post # 7
@Krises: Yes, all of those are good points… guess we need to make a pros/cons list and go from there 🙂
Post # 8
We were married on December 28th and had great turnout! It wasn’t even a weekend night.
Many of our friends who live away were home for Christmas and folks were mostly off work between Christmas and NY. Family stuff had died down and people were ready to get out and party!
Post # 9
If that is what you want, do it. Just be prepared for a lot of no’s and also it’s a tough time financially for a lot of people. But if you all don’t care about that, go for it. I would check with VIPs (people you would be really upset if they don’t make it) before booking.
Post # 10
@SarahSmilesDec28: That’s great news! Your wedding must have been a blast!
@NJmeetsBX: Good advice about checking with people first before proceeding one way or another. Thanks!
Post # 11
We almost had a New Year’s Eve wedding because we both were in grad school. I don’t remember the exact reason why we pushed it to the following summer, but it worked out in our favor because there was a HUGE snowstorm on New Year’s Eve.
You don’t just have weather concerns. Now that I’ve been married for a while and am a guest, it would be tough for us around the holidays because of Christmas and all that financially entails, espcially with kids.