LATE evening wedding – having regrets!!!

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsCreeToBe:  Our festivities ran from 1:00 pm until about midnight, with a the hour gap.  Some people did not come in the evening.  People did start to leave after 11, when the band stopped playing, but not much before that, and they had been around all day, and changed clothes in between. 

Everyone who left, came and said good bye.  And it really didn’t start to empty out until close to midnight, after nearly 11 hours.  And, we were enjoying things so much, that we really didn’t care.  It was the best party I’ve ever been to, and that’s how I remember it!

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

@MrsCreeToBe:  Well, only you know your guest list and what they would prefer. I will say, that does seem quite late, but not necessarily the end of the world. We had our ceremony at 5:30pm, cocktail hour 6:00-7:00pm, dinner served at 7pm, reception from 8-11pm. Most people left around 10:30-11:00pm.

If you are really, really worried, you could poll your guests and get some of their thoughts/insights. Maybe just ask 10-15 of your closest friends/family on what they are thinking. Also, if needed, is it too late to change the times? Have you already sent out invitations?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsCreeToBe:  I am actually doing the exact same thing! I have always loved the idea of an evening wedding so I knew I had to go for it when we were deciding timelines.

Try not to stress! I’m sure you’ve been told this already but this is YOUR day and your guests will be be happy to follow whatever timeline you’d like. They love you!

Have you considered switching the cocktail hour to before the ceremony? That way your guests will have some appetizers to tide them over until dinner. Plus that gives you more time to take any pictures with your bridesmaids/famlly etc.  Thats what my fiance and I plan to do. Good luck! Its going to be amazing!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

NO! dont change – if i were a guest at your wedding, I WOULD LOVE IT!

If its primarily Adults attending, it will have a wonderful atmosphere – everyone will know already to have a light dinner before, they will love the wedding, and then its CELEBRATE! 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I”m having an evening wedding too, but Mine starts at 6  and we are not serving a dinner.  THere will be lots of food, but it’s like 6-6:30 ceremony, 6:45-7:45 ish will be cocktails and hors d’oeurves on the main level, champagne toast, and some family photos; 8pm – 1am Speeches, first dances, and PARTY!  WIth a 9:30 snack buffet (Poutine and pulled pork sliders) and then dessert bar

Your wedding can be whatever you want.  I’ve heard some people with my style wedding starting at 6, and I’ve heard other people with my timeline starting at 7 or 7:30.  I didn’t want my wedding to start past 6 bc I figured it’s already a relatively short wedding  – most people get the whole day, mine is just the evening.

My suggestion is this – if it’s what YOU want, then do it!!! But if you’re second guessing it bc you’re worried YOU won’t be happy, then reprint your invites and do it earlier.  Bc what would you rather? – spent the money and reprint the invites so you have a wedding with no regrets, OR save the money and regret it?  But if you’re only second guessing your timeline because you’re worried about your guests – don’t.  It’s about what you want!

You’re worrying yours is too late, and I worry mine is too early (without a dinner) lol….. I think we brides worry way more than we should!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsCreeToBe:  I’ve been to weddings like that, it’ll be fine! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It all depends on what’s normal in your area. Not eating dinner until at least 9pm would be too late for me, personally, but that might be normal in your circle.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsCreeToBe:  DH and I rarely eat before 8:30pm on weeknights. We would be much happier with your timeline than having to eat at 5. It’ll be fine. People will eat a late lunch!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsCreeToBe:  As long as you are up front with your guests that there IS a plated dinner– they’ll likely plan accordingly.  If you don’t make that clear, they might assume it’s cocktails and dessert– and then leave.

But it’s like any event– they’ll RSVP if they’re up for the late evening (which I am sure they will be).

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s a little later than most weddings, but as long as people know there is dinner, then I think it will be fine.  I would probably have a little snack to hold me over around 5:00 if I knew there was going to be dinner later! 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

If you have a great band or dj and people who like to dance and party…it will be the best wedding ever! Normally weddings we go to…they end around 11 and everyone is scrambling to figure out what bar we are going to keepcelebrating. I would love to be able to celebrate until 1am! Don’t change it! Evening weddings are very romantic and so fun! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This is about an hour or two later than I personally would have a wedding/reception but it really depends on your group of guests. I know as a guest that I would love being able to sleep in the morning of your wedding 😛

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Like PP have mentioned only you know your guest list and since you made this decision a few years ago (thread was started in 2013?) I wouldn’t second guess yourself, :). Unless teh majority of your guests went through huge life changing situations (had kids, moved out of town, etc.) there’s nothing that should hinder them from attending an event that late. Don’t worry!

I could never get away with this with my guest list, but like I said it’s all about the guest list. Our guests are over 40 and will be in bed by midnight, lol.

Personally, if I was younger (under 25) and the guest list had a compilation of other young people then I think it’d be fun! But now with my FI I’d be out of there around 12.

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