Late invite through Facebook

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you attend?
    No : (23 votes)
    21 %
    Yes, of course! : (18 votes)
    16 %
    Yes, but I wouldn't try that hard to get off work : (50 votes)
    45 %
    Yes, but wouldn't bring a really nice gift : (11 votes)
    10 %
    it depends (explain below) : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @leisha606:  This kind of thing doesn’t bother me either.  Everyone has limits, either budgetary or space limitations.  I asked quite a few people late.  I’ve been asked late.  People seem to understand.  And if they don’t, well they can think I’m rude.  I’m okay with that.

    I’d go.  I’m not sure that I’d for sure try and get off work, depends if you need the money or if that’s a complicated thing for you to do.  Or I’d just go to the reception, if that’s a common thing where you are.

    Post # 4
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @leisha606:  I’d go if I wanted to and could make it.  

    Post # 5
    2209 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @leisha606:  I might be a little annoyed, but I would probably go if I wanted to, didn’t have anything else going on, and it was nearby.  I probably wouldn’t give as nice of a gift as I would’ve if I had been invited first string, though.

    Post # 6
    1625 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @leisha606:  I think if you want to go, go! I think weddings are fun, so I’d go as long as it wasn’t TOO big of a hassle! If you can get it off/covered easily, then sweet! 

    Post # 7
    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Like a PP said, space/budget constraints sometimes leave not-so-close friends out in the first round. It sounds like you two get along, and neither of you have illusions of being “besties” (i.e. she didn’t “snub you by not inviting 1st round), so I’d totally go!

    Post # 8
    6666 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would not be offended under the circumstances.  If I didn’t have to try too hard to make it happen I would go.

    Post # 9
    6963 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d probably go if it wasn’t a big inconvenience. Maybe she had budget limits/space constraints and didn’t get to invite everyone she was hoping to. And at least she was honest about it!


    Post # 10
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I got a facebook invite a few days before the wedding once.  Didn’t really bother me because we weren’t that close.  After planning my own wedding I get it now.  I tried to send out my invites early so that I could include my “B” list people within a reasonable amount of time.  But when those No’s come back, sometimes you want to include more people.

    Post # 11
    8847 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I did that to a couple guests – they were psyched to come and we were psyched to have them.  No harm no foul if no one’s offended, and I knew they wouldn’t be.  I’d try to go if you think it’ll be fun.

    Post # 12
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    haha I just asked a coworker yesterday because we’re 10 days out and have had cancellations. Two other coworkers told me they consider themselves my back ups in case of additional cancellations.

    I think she’s been upfront about it, you’re not offended, so yeah go! Have a super time! I just went to a Friday wedding for the first time this month and decided they are AWESOME. I took the Friday off, had a blast at the wedding, and then still had a full weekend ahead of me! Score!

    Post # 13
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    First of all, good for you! I read soooooooo many whiny posts on here! kudos to you for not getting your panties in a wad!

    I think you should go if you can. But I wouldn’t put a whole lot of effort into getting off work if it’s going to be a big hassle at this point. 

    Post # 14
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014


    maybe people RSVPd and then later told her they couldn’t come

    and then the final guest count she already sent in, don’t want to let a plate go to waste when its already paid for

    I would do this for all the “dates” that I initially said no to cause family comes first

    I told my friends afterwards if their bfs/gfs don’t mind being on the b-list until we see who RSVPs.

    Post # 15
    364 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @leisha606:  I am getting married on November 16th, it is a Saturday….not sure if that helps with your situation on whether you can go or not!

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