Post # 1
I am just curious on what you guys think. I would like to say first, I am NOT deeply offended by this.
An old co worker (she actually quit before I started, but she still attended social events when coworkers went out) is getting married next month. We were never super close, but as stated above, would hang out at parties, few girls night etc. I havent seen her in about a year or so, but keep in touch through facebook.
My cousin is attending the wedding as their partners are pretty good friends. The bachelorette party already happened, I saw the wedding invitations went out a while ago and saw her Facebook status saying “Deadline for RSVP’s”. So anyway, I get a message yesterday saying something along the lines of “hey girl, please tell me you are free on November 16th”
i messaged my cousin and told her…”is she trying to late invite me through facebook? The Wedding Bee has an ettiquette section and they would not approve ” LOL!!
I said I just have work that day. She said some people were no longer coming to the wedding and asked if me and SO wanted to attend. She also added that she hoped she didn’t hurt my feelings. I think it was nice she didn’t try cover up like Oh i forgot to send yours or it got lost in the mail!
I think I will probably try and go, but it depends if I can get off work. I mean a friday in November and i work in a mall! Would you go? I just think its hillarious that i was like “ohhh Wedding Bee would not approve, they are going to say she is trying to get more gifts!” hahhaha. I love you Bees!
Post # 3
@leisha606: This kind of thing doesn’t bother me either. Everyone has limits, either budgetary or space limitations. I asked quite a few people late. I’ve been asked late. People seem to understand. And if they don’t, well they can think I’m rude. I’m okay with that.
I’d go. I’m not sure that I’d for sure try and get off work, depends if you need the money or if that’s a complicated thing for you to do. Or I’d just go to the reception, if that’s a common thing where you are.
Post # 4
@leisha606: I’d go if I wanted to and could make it.
Post # 5
@leisha606: I might be a little annoyed, but I would probably go if I wanted to, didn’t have anything else going on, and it was nearby. I probably wouldn’t give as nice of a gift as I would’ve if I had been invited first string, though.
Post # 6
@leisha606: I think if you want to go, go! I think weddings are fun, so I’d go as long as it wasn’t TOO big of a hassle! If you can get it off/covered easily, then sweet!
Post # 7
Like a PP said, space/budget constraints sometimes leave not-so-close friends out in the first round. It sounds like you two get along, and neither of you have illusions of being “besties” (i.e. she didn’t “snub you by not inviting 1st round), so I’d totally go!
Post # 8
I would not be offended under the circumstances. If I didn’t have to try too hard to make it happen I would go.
Post # 9
I’d probably go if it wasn’t a big inconvenience. Maybe she had budget limits/space constraints and didn’t get to invite everyone she was hoping to. And at least she was honest about it!
Post # 10
I got a facebook invite a few days before the wedding once. Didn’t really bother me because we weren’t that close. After planning my own wedding I get it now. I tried to send out my invites early so that I could include my “B” list people within a reasonable amount of time. But when those No’s come back, sometimes you want to include more people.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I did that to a couple guests – they were psyched to come and we were psyched to have them. No harm no foul if no one’s offended, and I knew they wouldn’t be. I’d try to go if you think it’ll be fun.
Post # 12
haha I just asked a coworker yesterday because we’re 10 days out and have had cancellations. Two other coworkers told me they consider themselves my back ups in case of additional cancellations.
I think she’s been upfront about it, you’re not offended, so yeah go! Have a super time! I just went to a Friday wedding for the first time this month and decided they are AWESOME. I took the Friday off, had a blast at the wedding, and then still had a full weekend ahead of me! Score!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
First of all, good for you! I read soooooooo many whiny posts on here! kudos to you for not getting your panties in a wad!
I think you should go if you can. But I wouldn’t put a whole lot of effort into getting off work if it’s going to be a big hassle at this point.
Post # 14
maybe people RSVPd and then later told her they couldn’t come
and then the final guest count she already sent in, don’t want to let a plate go to waste when its already paid for
I would do this for all the “dates” that I initially said no to cause family comes first
I told my friends afterwards if their bfs/gfs don’t mind being on the b-list until we see who RSVPs.
Post # 15
@leisha606: I am getting married on November 16th, it is a Saturday….not sure if that helps with your situation on whether you can go or not!
Post # 16
@hisgirl10: LOL!!! Your comment made me laugh haha.
I think I am going to try and go, it is about an hour and a half away and at 3pm. I am sure i could leave work at 1. I just feel bad for the lady who always has to cover me (since I am also leaving early this friday!) I think I will repsond with a definite answer Monday.