- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
OK Bees, (sorry … little long)
Let me preface this convo by saying that this particular friend of mine has always been super high maintenance… always complaining about this friend or that, like … “I was there until the VERY end of HER bday party and stayed after hours, but she left right at the end of mine,” … “This person isn’t coming to my annual holiday party” and “this person had the AUDACITY to say XYZ to me,” etc. She’s a very outspoken liberal, which is 90% of the reason I love her.
That said, I am having a destination wedding in Cabo San Lucas. Our RSVP reply date was April 1. Most of the delayed RSVP’s were for YES’s, as they made their travel reservations, or figured out their budget and if/when they could attend. Everyone else who was late emailed or called stating why their RSVP was delayed and asked if it would cause a problem.
To be honest, I assumed from the beginning that this friend wouldn’t come, having bought a new home with her husband about a year ago. Anyway, I got an email from her about two weeks ago – Sorry the RSVP was late and that it was “in the mail.” No explanation, no hint to her response.
I received it yesterday, and it was a NO. I’m quite sure she knew when she received it that she would not be attending, and I feel SUPER irritated that she sent the RSVP in a month late for a no. Why couldn’t she just TELL me that two weeks or a month ago so I didn’t have to wait?
If the shoe was on the other foot, we’d ALL hear how incensed she was that X or Y friend had the GAUL to send in the RSVP a month late for a no.
I really want to tell her how I feel, given how she would react. The intelligent part of me says “let it go, crazy,” but my heart says, “call her out just like she would call you out.”
I am so mad right now I can’t even think. Any other friend and it is no issue. Given her vocal nature and double standards, it has become a huge one for me.