Late thank you notes-should I include an apology?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I include an apology for the delayed thank you notes?
    Yes say sorry for the late response, how rude! : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Nah, just get them out like YESTERDAY! : (37 votes)
    97 %
  • Post # 2
    2173 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Over two months, meaning less than three months?  I would just get them out ASAP.  In fact, I wouldn’t consider these late at all!

    Post # 3
    957 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t think you’re that late. I would do it soon though. 

    Post # 4
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d get them out soon, but not worry about apologizing. Just get them written and sent and people will be happy to get them within 6 months.

    Post # 6
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Lily_of_the_valley:  I don’t think you’re that late but people may be STARTING to wonder. I’d just get them out, I don’t think you’re so late you need to apologize.

    I got a thank you really late once (over 5 months) and it had a long drawn out list of BS excuses – “Ugh sorry these are late, we were moving blah blah blah” no one really wants to hear it lol

    Post # 7
    2081 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014


    Lily_of_the_valley:  They aren’t late yet, but if I were you I’d make it a priority to get them all done and mailed this week. I wouldn’t include an apology.

    Post # 8
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would just do them asap. If you get them done in the next couple of weeks, no apology necessary.

    If you feel the need to apologize, just apologize for the delay. Don’t make excuses -everyone’s busy.

    Post # 9
    1209 posts
    Bumble bee

    I dont think they’re late yet! And I wouldnt apologize!

    Post # 10
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

    Girl, they aren’t late yet – you’ve got three months! So I’d get them in the mail ASAP. No apology needed, but I think a truly genuine thank you note goes a long way even when it is late (vs. a generic letter or something similar). 

    Post # 11
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I usually don’t even start thinking they are “late” until three months after. Even if they were late I probably would not apologize.

    Post # 12
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    yeah, as long as you get them sent out around the 3 month mark, you’re ok. i sent my thank you’s out about 2.5 months after my wedding. i would have liked to have sent them out sooner, but was waiting to get my pictures from my photographer. one of my bridesmaids made a comment about them being sent out late, but she’s completely clueless about wedding etiquette, so i was just like, “screw you…” lol.

    Post # 13
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Lily_of_the_valley:  I don’t think you’re late.  I would get some thank you cards and get started now, but I’ve certainly waited longer for thank yous:)  Plus … I always give the newlyweds a little bit of slack … you’re newlyweds, you should be allowed a little time to just enjoy each other after throwing a huge party!

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