- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Oh, so annoying. Long vent ahead. . . .
(Holy shit this is long. Sorry. . . I edited it as much as I could).
So in our venue search, my FI and I have been looking, and I asked my parents to look also, as they live a little over an hour away from us. Long story short, every time we come up with a venue, my parents don’t like it for some reason (usually they say it’s too far away), and every time they come up with one, it’s too far from us for convenient setup and usually costs too much, since my parents have not been planning to contribute to venue $.
In the last few days, FI and I have come to the conclusion that our favorite out of all the options we’ve explored is the grounds of a historical society museum where I used to work. It’s in a very rural and open area, with a pond, a garden, and several ancient apple trees in the main lawn area(hopefully those will be in bloom during the wedding). Additionally, there are a small commercial kitchen and bathrooms available in one of the buildings, there’s a flat spot for a tent, I know the people who run the place, AND we could afford it. But the fact that it requires a tent is not ideal.
Aaaaaand guess what happens when I talk to my parents about it. It’s far away from them (yes of course it is ) and, they think that “weddings are about beginnings, and museums are about the endings of things, so they aren’t good places for weddings.” WHAT??? AGH!!!!! Plus my father thinks the big stone schoolhouse is ugly/creepy/looming. . . um no, it is interesting and historic.
There are a couple other venue options that are lovely, but which cost more, and apparently now my parents are willing to help pay for the venue if the place we want is beyond our original budget. BUT my FI and I have no connection to either of those places, we haven’t seen them yet, and it seems stupid to spend even more money, no matter whose money it is! One of these locations is a huge old farm with a nice wooden barn adapted to be a wedding venue, and the place has all the furniture and other necessary reception items, and allows people to self-cater if they wish to. But it costs a lot– even with all the rentals we’d need for the museum venue, this barn venue still costs almost twice as much!!
I’m tempted by the prospect of the nice reception barn and no rental hassles, but it’s a place that FI and I have no connection to, and it would cost a few thousand more. Which my parents would apparently cover, but it’s weird to me that a place being closer to them and not being a museum, would be worth almost $3000 to them when they’re not wealthy either.
What would you do?