Lawd help anyone that says something rude about my engagement ring..

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hear ya. I’ve never had anyone say anything negative about my ring, but when I read the threads about people that do get those comments I can’t even believe it! No way would I hold my tongue if someone acted that way to me.

Post # 4
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@krayzay87:  A more polite but equally pointed response would be, “I’m sure what you meant to say was congratulations.”

Or, you could just go for it and say, “well, I’m not a shallow, insecure twat who needs a certain caret size to buck up my shaky self-esteem.”

Post # 5
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489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

There will always be someone with something negative to say.  Too big, too small, too “dated,” too “modern,” “I don’t like halos,” “I don’t like solitaires,” “I don’t like platinum/white gold/gold/rose gold,” on and on.  Sometimes I think people are just expressing their opinion and trying to make conversation rather than actually insult you (or your ring or your fiance), not the best way to do it but that’s always been my impression, I’ve received negative comments on my ring (very large) but I’ve always noticed they never meant to upset me when they comment they just don’t know what else to say and want to keep talking.  Others, however, may very well be trying to insult you, and if I encounter those people I will also say something snarky right back.

Post # 6
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@krayzay87:  Seriously people have no damn filter! The funniest thing you’ll find when you have the ring is that most of the haters (well, I hope you never have to experience somebody saying something rude, but in case you do), are UNengaged women! Like, excuse me. CLEARLY you are hating because I have a man who wants to marry me and a ring I love to boot, and you have NOTHINGGGGG. 

I got crap from one girl who told me that, had we waited longer, FI could have gotten me a bigger diamond. UMMM. I’ve been with him 6 years, we just graduated college, and I CHOSE my diamond size because I don’t WANT something gigantic! People are dumb.

Post # 7
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@krayzay87:  I have a friend with a very expensive engagement ring (and by very I mean in the 12-15k range).  When she first showed it to us girls, everyone loved it, but one girl, who was jealous.  And instead of keeping her mouth shut, she made herself look like a fool and said, “Is it flat enough for you?” I will always remember that, because the situation reminded me that no matter how pretty, big, expensive, etc it is, someone is going to say something negative!!! 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@SimplyEuphoric:  FLAT ENOUGH?!?!!!! That is lol-worthy. What a ridiculous comment to make! It really does show that some people will criticize anything.

Personally, no one has made a negative comment about my ring, period…but that’s also because I do not flaunt it ever. I’ve literally never made comments like “Look at my ring!” Or put my hand up and say, “I’m engaged!” I’ve noticed that friends who have done those things have experienced disparaging comments about their rings, while everyone I know has been super sweet to me. Even when I run into someone that doesn’t know we’re engaged (we didn’t put it on Facebook), they immediately notice my ring and ask me about it. It’s always been a suprised happy reaction, and I know some seriously catty bitches. If someone were to make a disparaging remark, they’d meet the full force of my bluntness. 

Post # 9
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2687 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@krayzay87:  I already know that I’m going to get rude comments. I’m getting a peach champagne sapphire instead of a diamond (I’m still in college — but he’s not). So yeah, I can hear them already. 

Post # 10
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Oh your post title made me chuckle!! I’ve been feeling the same way, reading all these horror stories. I must live around some nice nice people, though, b/c my ring is probably the least spendy one on this board and so far no one I’ve shown it to has had even a smidge of negativity in their comments.

But I need to develop a few good comebacks for when/if it ever happens so I dont’ just cry. Or smack them.

Post # 11
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@Zhabeego:  I wish I’d read your post more carefully! THAT is what I will say if anyone decides to comment. DONE!

Post # 12
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrspinesol:  That sounds beautiful. I love non-traditional rings.

Post # 14
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3156 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@krayzay87:  “Ask me how small my ring feels when it hits you in the face.”   JK.  Sort of….

Post # 15
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@krayzay87:  When I first got engaged I was at my weekly WW meeting and had this god awful woman ask to see it and say “Well isn’t that a cute, dainty ring”….. I just about socked her in her triple chin. Foot in Mouth WHOOPS.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Zhabeego:  Bahaha I love this –> “What you meant was congratulations.” HA! People. I haven’t had that many rude comments but I have had some dead silence when showing off my e-ring. EYE ROLL.

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