Lazy, Unmotivated Friend – Help, or Heave-Ho?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

She doesn’t sound like much of a friend. I would be seriously uncomfortable with the mooching. Is she amazing otherwise? Is she supportive of you, polite to the waitress, a good listener? Super fun, the life of the party?

Based on what you’ve said, I would do a slow fade.

Post # 4
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It doesnt sound like you have a lot of respect for her. I’m not saying you should, but I’d have to respect someone a least a *little* bit to consider them a friend…and it doesnt sound like you do.

There is nothing wrong with having nothing in common with someone anymore and gradually phasing out.

Post # 5
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think life is too short to have friends that you have to babysit and parent. As such, if it were me, I would cut her loose. It doesn’t sound like she gives you anything worth keeping. For example, it’s not like you said she’s a total giver with her time and affection and is reliable or a shoulder to cry on. I can overlook the materialistic, financial part of her life (or the lack thereof) if she had beautiful qualities internally that made up for it.

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