(Closed) LDR – AFTER wedding???

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I feel your pain. We have been dating for nearly 4 years in a LDR, although only 2 hours away.  I’m currently finishing grad school and won’t be done for another 2 years.  We’ll be living apart until I finish.  I’m trying to do an excelerated program so that I can cut it down to 1 year but not sure how the job market will be after only 1 year.  It’s hard but I’m accepting that fact that we have to make these great sacrifices.

Post # 4
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We will be. For sure. We’re getting married in October and I dont finish student teaching until May. He’s in the military, so he will be stationed in New Mexico while i’m in StL finishing up school. So, the first 7-8 months of our marriage will be a LDR.

Post # 5
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m blessed to be able to live with my husband-to-be once we’re married. I could never do what you ladies are doing! not seeing each other often our first year and a half of dating was hard enough.

Post # 6
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

We’re not going to be LDR for the first bit, but there’s the potential that he’ll get an internship out of state for the summer.  I thought that when he got out of the military that we’d be done with LDRs for the rest of our lives!  LOL.  It’s not something that I’m looking forward to at all.  In fact, I keep telling Lambster that if he is away for the summer that I’ll be getting a dog to keep me company!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We spent the first 6 months LDR. Honestly, it’s not any different than it was before…it’s just the same except now you’re legally married.

It sounds cliche, but you just do what you gotta do. It sucks, but I don’t think it sucked anymore than it did pre-marriage, haha. Same ole same ole. Except you won’t have wedding stuff to keep you busy….so you definitely need to find something.

Post # 8
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s really likely that we’ll spend most of the first year of marriage apart. I’m a grad student and will need to spend a lot of next year abroad doing dissertation research, and he’s not sure if he wants to/is financially able to move with me. In an ideal world, sure, but it’s only about 30% probable right now. Getting married in July and moving to Paris in September…. :/

Post # 9
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Yup. We will be for some of it. He’s being deployed about a month after we’re married. I’m just excited to finally marry the boy, so I’m okay with it this time around.

Post # 10
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815 posts
Busy bee

There’s a good chance we will.  Not too sure about it yet, because we haven’t started planning.  There’s so much to think about.  I could drop everything and move to him, but if he deploys a month later, it might not be worth it.  So we may end up being a LDR for a while longer.

Post # 11
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2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are fortunate to be together, but I have three co-workers who have all spent 10+ years of their marriages seperated by a thousand miles (oddly, all are unrelated but all are Chicago-Boston arrangements). I only tell you this to reassure you because all of those people have managed to sustain their happy marriages for many years. They are all fairly independent people by nature so I suppose they are well-suited to it. Anyway, just wanted to let you know that it is possible to be in two places and have a wonderful marriage!

Post # 12
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

There is a slight possibility that we’ll be LDR for the first few months after our wedding ceremony if there is a hold up with immigration! Ahhh… its annoying to not have control over, well anything regarding immigration.

Post # 13
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I asked this same question about a year or so again (whether or not anyone was married and living apart) and NOBODY was, except me. Now, look at all these ladies doing it!

Post # 14
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

There’s a possibility we’ll spend the first 2 or 3 months apart. He has an internship he will have to do right after we get married, and I can go with him UNLESS I find a job right after I graduate, in which case I’ll have to stay here without him. I’m dreading it. 🙁

Post # 15
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve known several military couples who barely got a honeymoon before their hubby’s deployment after their wedding.  It’s hard, but you keep it up just as before.

Personally, I think it would be harder to be separate after marriage than it was before though!

Post # 16
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

thank goodness, this is one hardship we will be spared!

I feel for those of you who endure it. You’re strong women!

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