(Closed) LDR and moving away from home anxiety!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

me! but i’ll only be about 5 hours away from my family. close enough to visit for the weekends/holidays. i’m the biggest mama’s girl in the world, so i’ll definitely be needing to visit often!

my fiance is in the military, so once we get married i’ll be moving to the oceanside area where he’s stationed. it’s going to be quite an adjustment for me to go from living with my parents to being married and on my own with my husband in a completely new city! i’m excited, but i’m also scared just like you.

the good thing is my fiance and i are from the same hometown, so once he’s done with the service (in 2014), we’ll be able to go back home. knowing that it’s not forever and that there’s “a finish line” makes it a bit easier.

have you spent some time in dallas at all to get familiar with the area or to meet your almost-fiance’s friends? that’s helped me a little bit. i’ve met my fiance’s buddies and their wives/girlfriends, so i’m looking forward to seeing some familiar faces more often and getting to know everyone better. and i’m sure you know skype is a life saver when it comes to long distance. i don’t know if any of this really counts as advice, lol, but i definitely know how you’re feeling!

are you planning on making dallas your permanent home after you guys get married?

Post # 4
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My fiance is in the Air Force, so yes, I’m going to be moving away from my hometown away from my parents.  I am terrified too and have extreme anxiety over it.  My fiance promised he’ll get me a therapist when I move out there with him to help me cope, haha.  (I swear I’m not mentally unstable.  I was a psychology major in college, so I think all people should have therapists to stay healthy if they can afford it.  =) )

Post # 6
45 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m moving to another country to be with my fiance when we’re married, so I understand the anxiety. On the other hand, you’ll be making new memories in your new home with someone you love. I still have a soft spot for the small town my fiance and I were living in before he moved overseas, like going grocery shopping together and going to small restaurants around town. 

I’m sure you’ll become fond of the new town soon enough. As my fiance always says, it’s not about where you are, but who you’re with. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

ive never moved to be with someone but i can totally see how you may be a little on edge moving away from everything you know. i live in dallas, we should meet up sometime! what part of dfw is your guy in? try making new friends, or looking for g2gs on the local board to distract you. being homesick will come with the territory, but i think youll do fine. gluck

Post # 8
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m in the same boat!!! My fiancee’s new job is in Wisconsin, but ALL of my family and most of my friends are here in Cali. Its so hard to leave them. πŸ™ I think Skype, facebook, and plenty of good old fashioned phone calls are the only remedy. I told my Fiance that we need to make it a point to set aside money for Christmas with my family. They’re so near and dear to my heart, its super difficult packing up and feeling like I’m leaving half of my heart! I know, I’m not too encouraging lol :/ But just wanted you to know, yes, someone else definitely feels the heart strings being pulled. 

Post # 9
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@catalinaislandbabe:  I’ve moved away from my hometown, family, wonderful job and house in the California mountains to be with my fiance on the busy, overpriced East Coast. Lots of adjustments – and I’ve been very homesick. Does it get any better? I feel like I had too many roots in my hometown and up and leaving was more of a shock than I’d thought it would be… πŸ™‚

Post # 10
11 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am actually in a similar situation. My fiance is in the military and his enlistment ends early 2014. I decided to move to have a new adventure and see if living in a big city was something I wanted. I wanted to live with him of course, as a LDR can be trying sometimes. I was going through a lot and decided to move a little fast (turnaround was 2 months time). I’ve been here jobless for 3 months and I’ve realized that I made the decision a bit too hastily. As much as I wanted it to work out for me here, I realized I want to live where I used to.

I think moving can be a great experience because it helps you change and grow and see things about yourself you never knew. Just be sure that your mind is clear and that any issues you may be having are as resolved as possible.If not, they will just follow you whereever you go, and will be amplified by 1000 once you have left your comfort zone.

It will be hard at first. I was homesick right away, but it dissipated as I was able to visit my hometown a few times. Keeping in touch with family and friends is key, but also put yourself out there to make new friends and routines in your new place. You anxiety is totally normal. Just hang in there!

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