(Closed) LDR and Weddings

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll: Are you feeling any premature wedding plans (or baby plans or whatever) because of the LDR?
    Yes, it's hard and I just want it to be over but planning makes me feel better : (9 votes)
    60 %
    No, it's hard and I just want it to be over but I know I have to wait : (5 votes)
    33 %
    Other (Explain in comments?) : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    YES. So sincerely that I had to use allcaps! Sometimes my heart asks my brain “why didn’t you just move across the country with him?? You’d be there RIGHT NOW!!” even though i know 100% that would have been the wrong choice for me. It’s so so so hard but in the end I think I’ll be happier having made this choice…even if i don’t get to be with him full-time for maybe 18 months.  IT SUCKS but the good things in life are worth waiting for!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I feel like I understand what you’re trying to say. FI and I have been in a LDR for all almost 6.5 years of our relationship. He’s only a few hours away now, but between his work and school schedule and my work schedule, we only see each other once a month. I know that it we will be together one day and it really sucks to have to wait it out. But the thing is,  YOU have to be prepared for the wait and know that your man is worth the wait. It isn’t easy to make a LDR work, but it is easy to make it fail.

    Post # 6
    Member
    52 posts
    Worker bee

    I know what you’re saying.  My FH and I have been dating for 4 years.  We have dealt with long distance relationship most of our relationship.  Now that I am a sophomore in college, it bugs me to see all the couples on campus.  I do feel resentful towards other couples.  My roommate tells me I’m just jealous, which I am, but it’s just SO FRUSTRATING! I seriously plan my wedding because I know we are getting engaged very soon and will be married once I am out of college in two years.  FH and I do plan our wedding and are super excited to be together for the rest of our lives! 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have my days like anyone else. It’s hard work being in an ldr and we done it for our whole relationship. That being said some of your comments are kind of over the top, just because other people didn’t go on the same path as you doesn’t mean that they have “shitty jobs” and it’s a person choice to choose to have kids.

     

    The major thing to do is stop comparing your relationship to theirs, it’s a completely separate thing and one has nothing to do with the others. Keep yourself busy. If you are truly can’t take anymore, then I think looking for work and taking steps together may be worth it.

     I do feel being in ldr we tend to take each for less granted, and even when we get in tiffs or upset at each other we learned how not to be resentful or hold on it all day or week because out time together is so limited that we want it all to be positive.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Yes, DH and I were LDR due to my graduate school up until a month before our wedding.  It was hard, but you have to be strong and not get jealous of other relationships.  I knew DH and I had something stronger than some people I knew– we were so strong, we could choose to be apart because it benefited us both.  (I knew a girl who posted on Twitter how much she missed her partner when she went to work everyday… she lived with him!  It grated on my nerves so much when I only saw DH once or twice a month.)  You may get the “short end” now, when you’re not getting chocolates or hugs everyday, but you’ll definitely be feeling great when you’re on the other side of the wedding.  DH and I bought a house together immediately (when most of our other friends are renting) and now I see him everyday.  All that time we put into this relationship was totally worth it because it helped us build what we have now. 

    I know it’s lonely, and it really does suck.  But keep your eye on the prize and focus on yourself and your hobbies until it’s over! Planning did make me feel better because it felt like I was being proactive– I had to pick invites and call venues because we were getting married and that meant I’d get to be with DH!

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