Post # 1
LDR began this week. One week down. five months three weeks to go (at best!).
At least he is home every weekend, but I see him tomorrow sunday morning and he is gone again :-/ I am dreading saying goodbye! How do you ladies get through a weekend knowing you say goodbye so soon?
Post # 3
Oh girl it’s so tough. Just stay strong, enjoy the time you are together, have times when you contact eachother during the week, and keep yourself busy during the week when you are apart. You can do it!
Post # 4
Thanks! The support helps so much. It is hard cause friends at home don’t deal with boyfriends away all week so they are frustrated I want to spend weekends with him . . .
Post # 5
It’s very tough for sure. No one understood my LDR and we were pretty long distance.
Post # 6
How long were you apart for? I feel like I am being bratty – we are only apart five days a week. I am so used to our routine though that it feels like forever.
Post # 7
We were apart for the first year and a half of our relationship and only saw each other a few times during that period.
Post # 8
My FI and I spent 4 years apart in college – from CA to FL! Hah I would’ve killed to have my FI home every weekend since I only saw him on breaks, but any time apart can be hard, even if it’s 5 days at a time. Mine’s only been home since December and I still remember how it felt to live every time I was with him knowing he’d be leaving again at a specified date – it’s tough. Just remember to enjoy all the time you can with him because some of those sweet times together will become your fondest memories. Or, at least they were for us 🙂
Post # 9
We had five and a half years of just weekends together 🙂 enjoy them – like @gatorhailey said, they become some of the fondest memories!! Keep busy during the week (that’s when I’d catch up with my girlfriends) and savor the weekends. My fiance used to leave Mass for NYC early on Sunday mornings, so I’d wake up early, spend some quiet time with him in the AM and then send him on his way and find a project to do (um, or sometimes go back to bed). It definitely helped saying “see you in X days” before we parted ways too – the time goes by so fast. Stay strong @afuturemrsl!!
Post # 10
*sigh* The start up is the worst I think. 🙁 My LDR started at the beginning of the month – thankfully we are having our first visit now. I’m envious of your weekends!!! I’m in Ohio and my FH is in Vancouver – not really possible for weekend visits.
I think the best thing to do is look at it in terms of days – like X days till you see him, as opposed to X months until it’s over. Then it’s doable in little bite size chunks.
Mine is going to be at least 9 months, if not a full year. If we’re lucky we’ll be able to see each other once a month for a long weekend.
We did 6 months of LDR when we were first dating. I know things like making mixed CD’s and sending cute cards really helped, and were a nice opportunity to be romantic.
If you don’t already have webcams, I highly recommend getting them. For some reason being able to see each other when you’re talking makes a difference, in my opinion. Sometimes my FH will just leave our webcams on as we go about our buisness in the evening, even if we’re just working on things and not really talking. Somehow it makes you feel closer.
Post # 11
Stay busy! That was so hard for us during our LDR because we would only see each other some weekends also. That sunday was always the most depressing! Keeping busy keeps the time going fast! We also would talk to each other every night and after hanging up we would text each other what we called a “deep thought” It usually was something sweet and lovey dovey. It always brought a smile receiving those texts before bed.
Post # 12
I know it’s so hard. But you can do it. I promise. 🙂 Just don’t dwell on the goodbye all weekend…you want to enjoy the time you have together! And make plans to talk extra the first night you’re apart again. That helps.
Post # 13
Dwelling on the goodbye has been my biggest problem. We’ve been apart about 14 months now and see each other every 8 weeks or so. (This time we are going 12 weeks and it’s killing me).
I used to drive my SO crazy every time because I would be close to tears half of the time we were together because I was thinking of having to say goodbye.
My advice is to just enjoy the moments of being together and remember that this won’t last forever! That’s how I get through it.
Post # 14
Turn that frown 🙁 upside down :)! It does get a little easier as time goes on, promise!
My BF and I have been LDR for 2 months now, seeing each other every 2 or 3 weeks, the goodbyes now aren’t as hard as the first time we said goodbye – in fact I haven’t cried at a “goodbye” since our first. I have actually found that the week/ days before I see him next is harder than the goodbyes, the week/ days just won’t go fast enough and thats when I get down. I agree with what poster said above, think of it as days until you see him next instead of how long you have to go before you are no longer LDR. Also, get a few good books or tv series on DVD so you have something to look forward to.
I think going through a Long Distance period makes good relationships stronger and I’m sure that’ll be the case for you guys!