Post # 1
Hello Fellow Bees,
I am SO excited to see that there is an LDR thread on here. My Fiance and I are living what seems to be worlds apart. We got engaged on Dec 8th this year and December 28th is when he left for Medical School in the Carribean… I live in Michigan.. He is on the Island of Dominica. We get to skype 1-2x a day, and text maybe 5x a day. It is almost impossible for me to visit there bc he is SO busy with classes and studying.. I am a Nurse and back in school again, so I do have pleanty to keep me busy. However, I just want someone who has been through this to tell me that everything is going to be ok….? We were together 2 1/2 years prior to getting engaged and practically lived together… so I know we have a FANTASTIC relationship, and I have never questioned our trust and I never will. It is just so depressing not having him around because he isnt just my Fiance, but also my best friend… I know this sounds strange but I am scared to death that when i see him again he will feel like a stranger… Is this insane?! I will get to see him every 3 1/2 months for 3 weeks, then he goes back.. this will go on for 16 months and then he comes back to the states for his residency…
Maybe Im just looking for people who might be experiencing any of these same feelings… Any comments, Advice, Words of wisdom welcome!!
Post # 3
HE will definitely not be a stranger! You will not be able to sleep the night before.. .you will be so excited! My So and I had to do long distance for a 9 month period when he was in Europe. I only got to see him 1 week in the middle. And this year (August until next August) I only get to see him every 3 weeks. We rely on skype a lot, but at least we’re in the same time zone finally. It helps knowing that there’s an end date… it’s not going to be like this forever! I totally feel the same way.. it’s not a trust issue, it’s just you want to be a “real couple” who goes out and has fun! A lot of my relationship has been long distance (next August we will finally be able to live together after 5 years together!) and I just want to start my life with him already! You are not alone. We have skype “dates” on weekends when there’s time, and otherwise, I’d send email messages and just share how my day was, stuff you’d talk about if you were together just hanging out. I know it’s hard, but look on the bright side… he proposed! I am long distance… and still waiting! 🙁 I’m working on my master’s degree, I’m worried about finding a job where he lives… and if I just knew things were official I’d feel so much better!!
Post # 4
I know 16 months seems like forever but I promise it will go by faster than you think. I am at the end of a 2 year masters program and although we aren’t a plane ride away like you two are, we still have a large distance between us. We have only seen each other for a weekend at a time every 2 months or so for the last 2 years so I definitely know how you are feeling. He will not feel like a stranger and those times he does come home will be some of the happiest times you will ever experience! This time away from each other may bring you even closer together because you will realize how important he actually is in your every day life. It is hard and there will be days where you will want to see him more than anything but I promise it is you will get through it and it will get easier as time passes! Just believe in yourselves and your relationship and everything will be fine!