(Closed) LDR feeling a little insecure..

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I did an LDR for a while with someone who did things to make me feel insecure (both purposefully and unpurposefully).  It’s not fun or good for the relationship.

Ask him to call/text you when he says he can, as opposed to just saying that he will.  If he complains that “it’s just a phone call”, then the issue is not that it’s “just a phone call”, the issue is that he doesn’t respect you or consider your feelings with the weight that he should.  And to be honest, you deserve better.

If that conversation doesn’t work, then I would stop texting him in the morning and see what he does.

Problems in relationships really are magnified when things become long-distance, especially problems with communicating with one another.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Communication is so key in any relationship, especially long distance relationships. The first thing I would do in your situation is to make sure you know his regular day-to-day or weekly schedule. This doesn’t mean every little thing, just when he has classes, regular meetings, etc. Don’t stop doing what you’re doing – keep communicating with him even if it feels one sided. Communicating less than you normally do on purpose would kind of be making him feel insecure on purpose, which I’m sure you don’t want to do since you obviously care about him. If it continues and you’re still insecure after being together in person for a while, then I would talk to him about it.

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